Sandra Haymon, Ph.D., Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

Alzheimer's Disease - Genetics and Life Style Factors

2010-11-12T04:00:00.000-08:00

According to the National Institute on Aging, "Genetics In a very few families, people develop Alzheimer’s disease in their 30s, 40s, and 50s. Many of these people have a mutation, or permanent change, in one of three genes that they inherited from a parent. We know that these gene mutations cause Alzheimer’s in these “early-onset” familial cases. Not all early-onset cases are caused by such mutations.

Most people with Alzheimer’s disease have “late-onset” Alzheimer’s, which usually develops after age 60. Many studies have linked a gene called APOE to late-onset Alzheimer’s.

This gene has several forms. One of them, APOE ε4, increases a person’s risk of getting the disease.

About 40 percent of all people who develop late-onset Alzheimer’s carry this gene. However, carrying the APOE ε4 form of the gene does not necessarily mean that a person will develop Alzheimer’s disease, and people carrying no APOE ε4 forms can also develop the disease.

Most experts believe that additional genes may influence the development of late-onset Alzheimer’s in some way.

Scientists around the world are searching for these genes. Researchers have identified variants of the SORL1, CLU, PICALM, and CR1 genes that may play a role in risk of late-onset Alzheimer’s.

For more about this area of research, see the Alzheimer’s Disease Genetics Fact Sheet, available at www.nia.nih.gov/Alzheimers/Publications/geneticsfs.htm.

Lifestyle Factors

A nutritious diet, physical activity, social engagement, and mentally stimulating pursuits can all help people stay healthy.

New research suggests the possibility that these factors also might help to reduce the risk of cognitive decline and Alzheimer’s disease.

Scientists are investigating associations between cognitive decline and vascular and metabolic conditions such as heart disease, stroke, high blood pressure, diabetes, and obesity.

Understanding these relationships and testing them in clinical trials will help us understand whether reducing risk factors for these diseases may help with Alzheimer’s as well."

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How is Alzheimer's Disease Diagnosed?

2010-11-11T04:00:00.000-08:00

How is Alzheimer’s Disease Diagnosed?

According to the National Institute on Aging, "Alzheimer’s disease can be definitively diagnosed only after death by linking clinical course with an examination of brain tissue and pathology in an autopsy.

But doctors now have several methods and tools to help them determine fairly accurately whether a person who is having memory problems has “possible Alzheimer’s disease” (dementia may be due to another cause) or “probable Alzheimer’s disease” (no other cause for dementia can be found). To diagnose Alzheimer’s, doctors:

•ask questions about the person’s overall health, past medical problems, ability to carry out daily activities, and changes in behavior and personality
•conduct tests of memory, problem solving, attention, counting, and language
•carry out medical tests, such as tests of blood, urine, or spinal fluid
•perform brain scans, such as computerized tomography (CT) or magnetic resonance imaging (MRI)
These tests may be repeated to give doctors information about how the person’s memory is changing over time.

Early diagnosis is beneficial for several reasons. Having an early diagnosis and starting treatment in the early stages of the disease can help preserve function for months to years, even though the underlying disease process cannot be changed. Having an early diagnosis also helps families plan for the future, make living arrangements, take care of financial and legal matters, and develop support networks.

In addition, an early diagnosis can provide greater opportunities for people to get involved in clinical trials. In a clinical trial, scientists test drugs or treatments to see which are most effective and for whom they work best. "

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How is Alzheimer's Disease Treated?

2010-11-10T04:00:00.000-08:00

How is Alzheimer’s Disease Treated?

According to the National Institute on Aging, "Alzheimer’s disease is a complex disease, and no single “magic bullet” is likely to prevent or cure it. That’s why current treatments focus on several different aspects, including helping people maintain mental function; managing behavioral symptoms; and slowing, delaying, or preventing the disease.

Helping People with Alzheimer’s Maintain Mental Function

Four medications are approved by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration to treat Alzheimer’s. Donepezil (Aricept®), rivastigmine (Exelon®), and galantamine (Razadyne®) are used to treat mild to moderate Alzheimer’s (donepezil can be used for severe Alzheimer’s as well).

Memantine (Namenda®) is used to treat moderate to severe Alzheimer’s.

These drugs work by regulating neurotransmitters (the chemicals that transmit messages between neurons).

They may help maintain thinking, memory, and speaking skills, and help with certain behavioral problems. However, these drugs don’t change the underlying disease process and may help only for a few months to a few years."

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Managing Behavioral Symptoms of Alzheimer's Disease

2010-11-09T04:00:00.000-08:00

Managing Behavioral Symptoms

According to the National Institute on Aging, Common behavioral symptoms of Alzheimer’s include sleeplessness, agitation, wandering, anxiety, anger, and depression.

Scientists are learning why these symptoms occur and are studying new treatments—drug and non-drug—to manage them.

Treating behavioral symptoms often makes people with Alzheimer’s more comfortable and makes their care easier for caregivers."

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Preventing Alzheimer's Disease

2010-11-08T04:00:00.000-08:00

Slowing, Delaying, or Preventing Alzheimer’s Disease

According to the National Institute on Aging, "Alzheimer’s disease research has developed to a point where scientists can look beyond treating symptoms to think about addressing the underlying disease process.

In ongoing clinical trials, scientists are looking at many possible interventions, such as cardiovascular and diabetes treatments, antioxidants, immunization therapy, cognitive training, and physical activity.

November is Alzheimer's Awareness Month. Please participate in Memory Walks and other related activities to help increase awareness of Alzheimer's Disease.

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Alzheimer's Disease and Family Support

2010-11-07T06:00:00.000-08:00

Supporting Families and Caregivers

According to the National Institute on Aging, "Caring for a person with Alzheimer’s disease can have high physical, emotional, and financial costs.

The demands of day-to-day care, changing family roles, and difficult decisions about placement in a care facility can be hard to handle. Researchers are learning a lot about Alzheimer’s caregiving, and studies are helping experts develop new ways to support caregivers.

Becoming well-informed about the disease is one important long-term strategy. Programs that teach families about the various stages of Alzheimer’s and about flexible and practical strategies for dealing with difficult caregiving situations provide vital help to those who care for people with Alzheimer’s.

Developing good coping skills and a strong support network of family and friends also are important ways that caregivers can help themselves handle the stresses of caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s disease. For example, staying physically active provides physical and emotional benefits.

Some Alzheimer’s caregivers have found that participating in a support group is a critical lifeline. These support groups allow caregivers to find respite, express concerns, share experiences, get tips, and receive emotional comfort.

The Alzheimer’s Association, Alzheimer’s Disease Centers, and many other organizations sponsor in-person and online support groups across the country. There are a growing number of groups for people in the early stage of Alzheimer’s and their families.

Support networks can be especially valuable when caregivers face the difficult decision of whether and when to place a loved one in a nursing home or assisted living facility.

For more information about at-home caregiving, see Caring for a Person with Alzheimer’s Disease: Your Easy-to-Use Guide from the National Institute on Aging at www.nia.nih.gov/Alzheimers/Publications/CaringAD."

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What Causes Alzheimer's Disease?

2010-11-04T06:00:00.000-07:00

What Causes Alzheimer’s?

According to the National Institute on Aging, "Scientists don’t yet fully understand what causes Alzheimer’s disease, but it is clear that it develops because of a complex series of events that take place in the brain over a long period of time.

It is likely that the causes include genetic, environmental, and lifestyle factors. Because people differ in their genetic make-up and lifestyle, the importance of these factors for preventing or delaying Alzheimer’s differs from person to person.

Scientists are conducting studies to learn more about plaques, tangles, and other features of Alzheimer’s disease. They can now visualize plaques by imaging the brains of living individuals. They are also exploring the very earliest steps in the disease process. Findings from these studies will help them understand the causes of Alzheimer’s.

One of the great mysteries of Alzheimer’s disease is why it largely strikes older adults. Research on how the brain changes normally with age is shedding light on this question.

For example, scientists are learning how age-related changes in the brain may harm neurons and contribute to Alzheimer’s damage. These age-related changes include atrophy (shrinking) of certain parts of the brain, inflammation, and the production of unstable molecules called free radicals. "

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Sandra - Caregiver Guru

Alzheimer's Disease-Mild, Moderate and Severe

2010-11-03T06:00:00.000-07:00

November is National Alzheimer's Disease Awareness month. Here's more information from the National Institute on Aging on mild, moderate and severe stages of Alzheimer's Disease.

Mild Alzheimer’s Disease

"As Alzheimer’s disease progresses, memory loss continues and changes in other cognitive abilities appear. Problems can include getting lost, trouble handling money and paying bills, repeating questions, taking longer to complete normal daily tasks, poor judgment, and small mood and personality changes. People often are diagnosed in this stage. "

Moderate Alzheimer’s Disease

"In this stage, damage occurs in areas of the brain that control language, reasoning, sensory processing, and conscious thought. Memory loss and confusion increase, and people begin to have problems recognizing family and friends. They may be unable to learn new things, carry out tasks that involve multiple steps (such as getting dressed), or cope with new situations. They may have hallucinations, delusions, and paranoia, and may behave impulsively. "

Severe Alzheimer’s Disease

"By the final stage, plaques and tangles have spread throughout the brain and brain tissue has shrunk significantly. People with severe Alzheimer’s cannot communicate and are completely dependent on others for their care. Near the end, the person may be in bed most or all of the time as the body shuts down. "

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Sandra - Caregiver Guru

Early Signs and Symptoms of Alzheimer's Disease

2010-11-02T06:00:00.000-07:00

November is Alzheimer's Awareness Month. According to the National Institute on Aging, "Although we still don’t know what starts the Alzheimer’s disease process, we do know that damage to the brain begins as many as 10 to 20 years before any problems are evident.

Tangles begin to develop deep in the brain, in an area called the entorhinal cortex, and plaques form in other areas. As more and more plaques and tangles form in particular brain areas, healthy neurons begin to work less efficiently.

Then, they lose their ability to function and communicate with each other, and eventually they die. This damaging process spreads to a nearby structure, called the hippocampus, which is essential in forming memories.

As the death of neurons increases, affected brain regions begin to shrink. By the final stage of Alzheimer’s, damage is widespread and brain tissue has shrunk significantly. "

The National Institute on Aging further reports, early signs and symptoms of Alzheimer's disease.

"Memory problems are one of the first signs of Alzheimer’s disease. Some people with memory problems have a condition called amnestic mild cognitive impairment (MCI). People with this condition have more memory problems than normal for people their age, but their symptoms are not as severe as those with Alzheimer’s. More people with MCI, compared with those without MCI, go on to develop Alzheimer’s.

Other changes may also signal the very early stages of Alzheimer’s disease. For example, brain imaging and bio marker studies of people with MCI and those with a family history of Alzheimer’s are beginning to detect early changes in the brain like those seen in Alzheimer’s.

These findings will need to be confirmed by other studies but appear promising. Other recent research has found links between some movement difficulties and MCI. Researchers also have seen links between some problems with the sense of smell and cognitive problems. Such findings offer hope that some day we may have tools that could help detect Alzheimer’s early, track the course of the disease, and monitor response to treatments. "

Unfortunately, I know first-hand about this insidious disease. My Mother and step-father were both diagnoses with Alzheimer's, and I wrote the first book ever published in the United States on caring for aging parents.

My Turn--Caring for Aging Parents & Other Elderly Loved Ones was published in 1996!

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Advancing Our Understanding of Alzheimer's Disease

2010-11-01T23:46:00.002-07:00

Advancing Our Understanding

According to the National Institute on Aging, "Thirty years ago, we knew very little about Alzheimer’s disease.

Since then, scientists have made many important advances. Research supported by NIA and other organizations has expanded knowledge of brain function in healthy older people, identified ways we might lessen normal age-related declines in mental function, and deepened our understanding of the disease.

Many scientists and physicians are now working together to untangle the genetic, biological, and environmental factors that, over many years, ultimately result in Alzheimer’s.

This effort is bringing us closer to the day when we will be able to manage successfully or even prevent this devastating disease."

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National Alzheimer's Awareness Month

2010-11-01T22:52:00.000-07:00

November is National Alzheimer's Disease Awareness month. It is estimated that as many as 5.1 million Americans have been diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease.

According to the National Institute on Aging:

"Alzheimer’s disease is an irreversible, progressive brain disease that slowly destroys memory and thinking skills, and eventually even the ability to carry out the simplest tasks. In most people with Alzheimer’s, symptoms first appear after age 60.

Alzheimer’s disease is the most common cause of dementia among older people. Dementia is the loss of cognitive functioning—thinking, remembering, and reasoning—to such an extent that it interferes with a person’s daily life and activities. Estimates vary, but experts suggest that as many as 5.1 million Americans may have Alzheimer’s.

Alzheimer’s disease is named after Dr. Alois Alzheimer. In 1906, Dr. Alzheimer noticed changes in the brain tissue of a woman who had died of an unusual mental illness. Her symptoms included memory loss, language problems, and unpredictable behavior. After she died, he examined her brain and found many abnormal clumps (now called amyloid plaques) and tangled bundles of fibers (now called neurofibrillary tangles). Plaques and tangles in the brain are two of the main features of Alzheimer’s disease. The third is the loss of connections between nerve cells (neurons) in the brain.

Alzheimer’s disease is an irreversible, progressive brain disease that slowly destroys memory and thinking skills, and eventually even the ability to carry out the simplest tasks. In most people with Alzheimer’s, symptoms first appear after age 60.

Alzheimer’s disease is the most common cause of dementia among older people. Dementia is the loss of cognitive functioning—thinking, remembering, and reasoning—to such an extent that it interferes with a person’s daily life and activities. Estimates vary, but experts suggest that as many as 5.1 million Americans may have Alzheimer’s.

Alzheimer’s disease is named after Dr. Alois Alzheimer. In 1906, Dr. Alzheimer noticed changes in the brain tissue of a woman who had died of an unusual mental illness. Her symptoms included memory loss, language problems, and unpredictable behavior. After she died, he examined her brain and found many abnormal clumps (now called amyloid plaques) and tangled bundles of fibers (now called neurofibrillary tangles). Plaques and tangles in the brain are two of the main features of Alzheimer’s disease. The third is the loss of connections between nerve cells (neurons) in the brain."

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Baby Boomers Remember The 5th. Dimension

2010-09-20T20:37:00.000-07:00

Milions of us Baby Boomers became of age listening to The Age of Aquarius and the incredible music of The 5th. Dimension.

The original group consisted of Lamonte McLemore, Marilyn McCoo, Florence LaRue, Ron Townson, and Billy Davis Jr.

Some of my favorite songs include Stoned Soul Picnic, Wedding Bell Blues, Going Out of My Head, Never My Love, Aquarius/Let The Sunshine In, Up, Up and Away....well, actually I loved everything they ever recorded.

Their music was REAL! Music that spanned the spectrum from quite, contemplative, soul searching to "everybody let's dance!!"

It seems much of my life was recorded on the screen of my heart with The 5th. Dimension singing in the background. Consequently, nostalgia stops me in my tracks whenever I hear any of their songs.

Now, I can hardly believe that in a few hours I will interview the only remaining original member of this amazing group--Florence LaRue!!

My husband and I met Florence in Los Angeles a few months ago and became friends over the course of the three day Dreams to Reality Success Summit which we were all attending. I can attest that she looks the same as she did back in the 1960's when they first formed the group.

As of April 2009, the group is actively touring as "Florence LaRue & The 5th Dimension," led by Florence with Willie Williams, Leonard Tucker, Patrice Morris, and Floyd Smith.

Florence LaRue, known as the Divine Diva, will be my special guest Tuesday, September 21st.

You surely won't want to miss this episode. Florence will talk about her 44 years with the 5th Dimension--why she stayed and the highlights (and maybe some of the lowlights) of her amazing career.

Florence has agreed to talk about her education, health, charity work, solo performances, and her spirituality.

She will also share how she's managed to maintain balance in her life while balancing her life's work, motherhood and family life.

She's also agreed to share tidbits from rare and special speaking engagements she's had over the span of her career-with whom and what subjects!

Plus, she's willing to give up her beauty secrets. So, be sure you tune in for this exclusive interview with the Divine Diva of the 5th Dimension.

Tuesday, September 21st. Noon EDT (9amPDT) www.BlogTalkRadio.com/sandra-haymon

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Sandra - Caregiver Guru
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Exclusive Interview with Florence LaRue of the 5th Dimension

2010-09-16T00:43:00.000-07:00

Wow! Is this the Age of America? Florence LaRue, known as the Divine Diva, and the only
original member remaining in the singing group the 5th Dimension will be my special guest
Tuesday, September 21st.

You surely won't want to miss this episode. Florence will talk about her 44 years with the 5th Dimension--why she stayed-- the highlights (and maybe some of the low-lights) of her amazing career.

Florence has agreed to talk about her education, health, charity work, solo performances, and her spirituality.

She will also share how she's managed to maintain balance in her life while balancing her life's work, motherhood and family life.

She's also agreed to share tidbits from rare and special speaking engagements she's had over the span of her career-with whom and what subjects!

Plus, she's willing to give up her beauty secrets!!

So, be sure you tune in for this exclusive interview with the Divine Diva of the 5th Dimension.
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Sincerely,
sandra-Caregiver Guru
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Powered With Passion-Increase Productivity in All Areas of Your Life!

2010-09-13T13:15:00.000-07:00

Are you overwhelmed with all the details of life?

Are you exhausted trying to cram family, fun and business into one day?

Are you wasting time and money with an outdated business model?

Perhaps you're tired of searching for your purpose in life and never finding it.

If you could possess a value system to show you how to have what you desire, without loss, lack or struggle in your life, would you want it?

Do you think you're worth it?

Would you like to discover how to integrate your personal passions with the ‘work’ you do in the world?

Would you like to know how to increase wealth on all levels: emotional, financial, physical and spiritual?

Would you like to:
*Increase your productivity, effectiveness & outcomes?
*Create a truly unique Value System for prosperous living?
*Discover & implement your truest passions in life?
*Integrate your passions with business & family life
*Design a life that fosters & inspires others?
*Integrate family, passion, & business so that your bottom line is overflowing?
* Create conscious intentions to help you contribute to all of your passions with truth?
* Discover where to best put your time, energy, and resources?

Prosperity, abundance and fulfillment naturally follow you when you live a life you design by choice.

If you want to effectively and efficiently accomplish all that you desire with harmony and excitement, you won't want to miss this episode.

My special guest is Laura Gisborne, founder of Powered With Passion. Laura is a highly successful "Mompreneur.”

She owned her first business by age 23 and in the past twenty years has created, owned and operated nine lucrative businesses.

Her favorite traditional Spanish wedding quote encapsulates her outlook on life:
“Health, wealth, love and the time to enjoy them.”

Laura will share her secrets for success and discuss how to approach life "Powered With Passion."

If you want to live a life of abundance and balance, you won't want to miss this episode
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Sandra-Caregiver Guru
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Computers Made Easy For Seniors!

2010-09-06T19:23:00.000-07:00

Computer illiterate--no problem.

With just the touch of the screen PointerWare enables anyone to send e-mails, explore the Internet, post and view photos, and see and talk with family and friends.

Within minutes and for just pennies a day anyone can use a computer like an expert.

If you can point your finger you can use a computer to connect with your family and the rest of the world with PointerWare Softwars.

My special guest, Raul Rupsingh MSc., Co-Founder and CEO PointerWare Innovations, will introduce this amazing new software.

If you or a family member or friend presently don't know how to use a computer like an expert, or if you would just like an easier way to interact with your computer--PointerWare is for you!!

You won't want to miss this episode as Raul shares the secrets of computers made simple.
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Sandra-Caregiver Guru
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#10 of the Top 10 Techniques For Writing Like A Pro

2010-09-03T04:30:00.000-07:00

Here's #10 of Barbara McNichol's 10 Top techniques For Writing Like a Pro.

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#10. Whack Wordiness

As you write, proofread, rewrite, and finalize what you’ve written, whack all the extra words you can to sharpen your message.

Take out these five wobbly words as often as you can:

• some “We rely on some long-standing methods.”

• much “Internet job postings reach a much larger audience than ever.”

• very “Get ready to do a very good job.”

• that “Find information that you can apply easily.”

• really “Take out words that you really don’t need.

Note: The word “that” doesn’t substitute for “who” when referring to a human being. It’s not “a person that plays the piano” but “a person who plays the piano.”

Aim to eliminate extra phrases such as these:

• “there is” and “there will be” e.g., There will be many candidates who are already planning to move. Better: Many candidates may be already planning to move.

• “It is all about”; “the fact of the matter is”

• “in regards to” e.g., There may be additional sites you should search out in regards to your industry. Better: Seek out additional sites related to your industry.

• “is going to” e.g., he is going to be a key asset. Better: he will be a key asset.

• “in order to” e.g., add key words in order to describe the position Better: add key words to describe the position

• “is intended to, meant to, designed to” e.g., The prescreen is intended to focus on key aspects. Better: The prescreen focuses on key aspects.

Get rid of redundancies such as:

• end result

• add more

• tally up

• future planning

Eliminate repeated words: e.g., “Following a process for hiring, we followed the techniques in this book.” Better: “Following a process for hiring, we adopted the techniques in this book.”

Avoid writing long-winded sentences of more than 20 words by doing this:

• Chop a long sentence into two

• Change nouns to verbs (e.g., “the examination of” to “examine”)

• Question every single word, especially adverbs and adjectives, then take out the ones you really don’t need.

Example of editing a 44-word sentence (1.) down to a 21-word sentence (2.):

1. The subsequent chapters then will focus in great detail on each of the steps to make sure you know how to accomplish each step before proceeding to the next step and how to measure whether or not you are ready to move to the next step.

2. The subsequent chapters detail all 13 steps and show how to accomplish each one while measuring whether you are ready to move on.

Apply these top ten techniques and see your writing soar to a higher level of perfection than ever before!

Barbara McNichol writes and edits articles, books, and book proposals for authors, speakers, and consultants. She can be reached at 520-615-7910 or 887-696-4899 or online at editor@BarbaraMcNichol.com and http://www.barbaramcnichol.com/.
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Write Like a Pro: 10 Top Techniques for Perfecting Your Prose
#1. Match the Word to Its Precise Meaning
#2. Show, Don’t Tell
#3. Add Alliteration (and Other Figures of Speech)
#4. Ignite Sentences with Active Verbs
#5. Get Them to Agree
#6. Nix Mixed Modifiers (aka Dangling Participles)
#7. Talk Directly to Your Readers
#8. Pursue a Parallel Path
#9. Set a Clear Objective
#10. Whack Wordiness

Thanks to Barbara, we are all now more effictive writers!!

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7-9 of the Top 10 Techniques For writing Like a Pro

2010-09-02T04:30:00.000-07:00

Here's 7-9 of Barbara McNichol's 10 Top Techniques For Writing Like a Pro.

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#7. Talk Directly to Your Readers
Speaking directly to your readers is accomplished, in most cases, with a “you” orientation (not “I” or “we”). Using the second person “you” directs your communication to one individual and allows you to use commands that cut to the quick. E.g., Stop. Look. Listen. (Because reading is solitary, never say “many of you.”).

Note: At times, using a “we” orientation feels more inclusive and perhaps less bossy. You might use a generally accepted statement that calls for “we,” e.g., “We’re subject to the vagaries of the weather.” But as a rule, don’t mix “you” and “we” in the same paragraph. Why?

Because you abruptly shift the point of view and require your reader to skip around. Instead, start a new paragraph to signal a shift in the point of view.

#8. Pursue a Parallel Path

Don’t let a mixed bag of parts of speech wiggle into your writing. Here’s what I mean: “His attitude makes a difference in changing, succeeding, and when he wants to move on.” Throwing in a non-parallel phrase at the end forces the reader’s mind to shift gears unnecessarily. Why?

Because it breaks an expected pattern.

Instead, strengthen the sentence by saying this: “His attitude makes a difference in changing, succeeding, and moving on.”

Note: This rule of good writing taps into the power of three, which adds a rhythm and cadence that just feels right. E.g., Earth, wind, and fire. Winken, Blinken, and Nod.

#9. Set a Clear Objective

You might think writing requires just letting words flow like water out of a faucet. Not so.

Sentences are more likely to dribble and spurt than overflow like a fountain.

Answer these questions before you write the first line:

Target Audience—Who will read this? What do you know about them?

Purpose—What succinct, clear message do you want to send?

Benefits—What’s in it for the readers to read this and take action?

Call to Action—What do you want the reader to do, think, or remember as a result of reading your message? E.g., Attend this important meeting. Contact me.

Logistics—What logistics need to be spelled out? E.g., June 22 at 3 pm Eastern.

Hope these tip are helpful.

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Sandra-Caregiver Guru

4-6 of the Top 10 Techniques For Writing Like a Pro

2010-09-01T04:30:00.000-07:00

Here's 4-6 of Barbara McNichol's 10 Top Techniques For Writing Like a Pro.

You may receive your Free download at http://www.barbaramcnichol.com/

You may also listen to this interview at: www.BlogTalkRadio.com/sandra-haymon

#4. Ignite Sentences with Active Verbs

Ignite your sentences by using active verbs like achieve, adopt, align, boost, bridge, capture, clarify, connect, create, define, design, ensure, find, focus, gain, grasp, ignite, improve, inspire, learn, master, overcome, persuade, prevent, realize, reduce, scan, sharpen, simplify, stretch, unleash.

A pet peeve: using the word “utilize” when its modest synonym “use” works just fine.
Active verbs overcome passive sentence construction. Active construction occurs when someone does something to someone else; passive is when an action is being done to someone.

Which of these sentences is more effective?
Passive—“The piano was played by the student.”
Active—“The student played the piano with grace and dexterity.”

#5. Get Them to Agree

When you put a singular subject with the plural form of the verb, you weaken your writing, confuse your reader, and make grammarians groan. E.g., “A group of golfers were in town.” The subject of the sentence “group” is singular while the verb “were” belongs with a plural subject. Instead, write this: “A group of golfers was in town” or “Several golfers were in town.” Better yet, liven up the sentence with an active verb: “A group of golfers landed in town eager to play.”

#6. Nix Mixed Modifiers (aka Dangling Participles)

Check out this sentence: “When thinking about a good place to eat, many choices are available.” Are the “many choices” doing the thinking? I don't think so!

This mixed modifier (aka dangling participle) gets in the way of crisp, intentional writing. Correct version: “When thinking about a good place to eat, the host had many choices.” Now who’s doing the thinking? The host.

Join me tomorrow for additional tips from Barbara McNichol.

Here's to more effective writing.

Sincerely,
Sandra-Caregiver Guru
P.S. Join me Tuesday, October 5, 2010 at the Air Conference Centre in Phoenix, AZ for The Sacred Journey of Caregiving-A Transformational Approach to Life. Register at http://www.thesacredjourneyofcaregiving.com/

The Sacred Journey of Caregiving Website Launched Today!!

2010-08-31T13:03:00.000-07:00

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The new website for The Sacred Journey of Caregiving-A Transformational Approach to Life has just been launched!!

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Be sure to check this out, and register for the Phoenix event-The Sacred Journey of Caregiving-A Transformational Approach to Life, Tuesday, October 5, 2010, 6-8 pm, at the Air Conference Centre, 3417 East University Drive, Phoenix, AZ. Seats are strictly limited, so sign up today!!

Sincerely,

Sandra-Caregiver Guru

1-3 of the Top 10 Techniques For Writing Like a Pro

2010-08-31T11:41:00.000-07:00

For those of you who missed my Blog Talk Radio Show-Baby Boomers Sandwich this morning you may listen to it by clicking on: www.BlogTalkRadio.com/sandra-haymon

Barbara McNichol, expert editor and author was my special guest. Barbara offered a FREE download of her 10 Top Techniques for Perfecting Your Prose So You Can Write Like a Pro.

You may download your own copy of this helpful tool by going to http://www.barbaramcnichol.com/.

Here's the first 3 of Barbara's top 10 techniques. I will include the remaining 7 techniques later this week.

10 Top Techniques for Perfecting Your Prose So You Can Write Like a Pro

By Barbara McNichol

As a writer with a message to share and a story to tell, you want to communicate clearly so your readers will do, think, or remember exactly what you want.

By consistently applying the following 10 techniques to your writing, you’ll add persuasion to your writing and quickly see your results improve.

Keep this list in front of you the next time you write an article or chapter, and refer to it as you craft your paragraphs.

#1. Match the Word to Its Precise Meaning

Do you write “further” when you mean “farther” or “accept” instead of “except”? Selecting the correct word from similar-but-different options saves confusion for the reader and embarrassment for you as the writer.

Jump into your dictionary to know whether to select “choose” vs. “chose” within the context of your paragraph. Better yet, keep a reference guide like Word Trippers handy—one that clarifies word so you select the perfect one when it matters most.

#2. Show, Don’t Tell

Do your best to describe what’s happening without using adverbs and adjectives. e.g., Don’t say, “She felt sad” when you can say “tears rolled down her cheek.” Don’t say, “She was happy to get the compliment” when you can say something like “she skipped around in a circle, her mood lightened by the compliment she received.”

#3. Add Alliteration (and Other Figures of Speech)

Figures of speech add fun and persuasion to your writing. A few examples:

Alliteration: The first letter gets repeated. e.g., “It will dazzle and delight you.”

Simile: Makes a comparison using the word “like.” e.g., “It creeps up on you like a thick fog.” “Think like an editor.”

Metaphor: Says that something IS something else. e.g., “Keep the train of thought on track.” “Make hay while the sun shines.”

Chiamus: A sentence that mirrors itself. e.g., “Ask not what your country can do for you but what you can do for your country.” “Success in not the key to happiness; happiness is the key to success.”

Join me tomorrow for tips 4-6 of Barbara's top 10 techniques., adn listen to this episode at www.BlogTalkRadio.com/sandra-haymon

Sincerely,

Sandra-Caregiver Guru

P.S. Be sure to sign up for my event The Sacred Journey of caregiving-A Transformational Approach to Life, Tuesday, October 5, 2010, at the Air Conference Centre, 3419 east University Dr., Phoenix, AZ. Seats are strictly limited, so be sure to register today: http://www.thesacredjourneyofcaregiving.com/

10 Top Techniques for Writing Like a Pro

2010-08-30T21:38:00.000-07:00

Do you ever wish that your written communications were more effective and efficient?

Have you ever wondered what different types of editors there are?

Have you ever thought about what type of editing most consultants and nonfiction authors need?

Have you ever wondered if your book or article should even be edited? If so, how do you find a good editor?

What sort of working arrangements and results should you expect from an editor?

My special guest, Barbara McNichol, is an expert editor who writes and edits articles, nonfiction books, and book proposals for authors, speakers, and entrepreneurs.

If you seek a proven editor to help you craft a reputation-enhancing manuscript, look no more.

With two decades working with hundreds of amazing achievers, Barbara’s mission is to deliver quality editing that puts your writing on the pedestal it deserves.

She’s the creator of Word Trippers: The Ultimate Source for Choosing the Perfect Word When It Really Matters. (http://www.wordtrippers.com/).

Barbara also produces Add Power to Your Pen, a valuable ezine for tips on improving your writing.

For more information, go to www.BarbaraMcNichol.com or her blog http://www.nonfictioneditor.com/.

Barbara will discuss the 10 Top Techniques for improving your writing.

She will also talk about pet peeves of language.

So, if you'd like to improve the quality of your writing you won't want to miss this episode.

Tuesday, 8/31/10 Noon EDT, (9:00am PDT): www.BlogTalkRadio.com/sandra-haymon

Also, I will be presenting The Sacred Journey of Caregiving-A Transformational Approach to Life, Tuesday 10/5/10, 6-8pm PDT, at the Air Conference Centre, 3419 East University Drive, Phoenix, AZ. Hopw you can join me. Refister at: http://www.thesacredjourneyofcaregiving.com/.

Sincerely,
Sandra-Caregiver Guru

Caregivers Attempt to Balance Their Personal Life and the Demands of Caring for Elderly Parents

2010-08-25T13:49:00.000-07:00

Millions of Americans are now finding themselves in a place they have never been before--sandwiched between their careers, the needs of immediate family members, planning their own retirement, and providing care for elderly loved ones.

Baby Boomers - Sandwiched Between Retirement & Caregiving is a fun and sometimes funny look at caring for our elderly loved ones.

It’s filled with humorous do’s and don’ts of caregiving and thoughts you need to think about retiring.

If you’re one of the 78 million in the Silver Tsunami you need these lighthearted yet practical solutions to retiring and caregiving.

Do you need a seat belt for the emotional roller-coaster of caregiving? This book is for you.

If you’ve ever felt like you were drowning in the Alphabet Soup of medical terms and legal jargon--this book is for you.

Whether you’re retiring, retreading, or just free falling--this book is your parachute.

If you ever feel like you’re on a tight rope trying to balance working, planning for retirement, taking care of immediate family members and caring for elderly loved ones all at the same time? This book is for you.

Baby Boomers—Sandwiched Between Retirement & Caregiving is the first and most complete how-to-manual that addresses personal questions related to retirement and caring for elderly loved ones while taking care of one’s immediate family which may include adult children still living at home and perhaps even grandchildren.

In simple, easy-to-understand language I guide readers thru this entire process including medical choices, end-of-life decisions, medical advance directives, possible living arrangements, and how to say good bye before and after the death of loved ones.

I also help readers plan for their own retirement. I've included information on how to avoid unnecessary taxes, probate, and other culprits that could threaten your "nest egg" intended for retirement.

I also explore the importance of a dress rehearsal prior to retiring and offer a strategy for doing this.

Personal/family and professional caregivers of all ages will refer to this invaluable resource over and over again!

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Sincerely,
Sandra-Caregiver Guru
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The Sacred Journey of Caregiving-A Transformational Approach to Life

2010-08-24T19:26:00.000-07:00

Are you the "designated caregiver" for your elderly relatives?

Do you often feel overwhelmed, frustrated, angry, and ashamed?

Are you afraid of not making the "right" decisions?

Do you question your judgment, and feel guilty no matter what you do?

Do you feel lonely and think no one understands what you're going through?

Are you torn between spending time with your spouse, your children, and the needs of your parents?

Are you confused about levels of care, medical advance directives, and living arrangements?

If you answered "yes" to even one of these questions then this information is for you.

In Baby Boomers-Sandwiched Between Retirement & Caregiving I share everything I learned while caring for my mother and step-father (who were both in diapers), and from the experiences of hundreds of other caregivers whom I've worked with as a psychologist.

I've also added a thorough research of medical choices, legal jargon, living arrangements, assistance programs, and resources so that you'll have everything you need at your fingertips.

Hope you will join us tomorrow as Viki Kind interviews me at Noon EDT (9:00am PDT) http://tinyurl.com/33hof9j.

Sincerely,
Sandra-Caregiver Guru
P.S. Don't forget your $100 value Free Gifts: http://www.answersforboomers.com/

Everything In Its' Place-Five Steps to Getting Organized

2010-08-23T18:43:00.000-07:00

Do you ever feel like you're drowning in clutter?

Do you constantly think you're turning around in circles?

Is your attempts to get organized the only thing in your waste basket?

Do you ever think you're the only one who's unable to get organized at work or in your home?

Did you know that being disorganized affects every part of your life--your physical, mental and emotional health as well as your relationships at work and at home?

Forty-three percent of Americans describe themselves as "disorganized", 21% report missing crucial work deadlines because of it, and 50% say disorganization causes them to work late 2-3 times a week.

Some people even think being organized is hereditary so that's their excuse for being disorganized!

If you would like to have a place for everything, have everything in its place, and enjoy the peace being organized brings, then you won't want to miss this episode.

My special guest, Eileen Roth, a productivity expert, national speaker, and author of the book, Organizing For Dummies will discuss the many benefits of being organized as well as systems which will enable you to bring order to every aspect of your life.

So, have your questions ready for the expert on organization, and join us Tuesday, August 24, 2010 at Noon ET (9:00AM PT): www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon.

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru
P.S. Don't forget your Free gifts at: www.AnswersForBoomers.com

Talking...From Chit-Chat to Headlines

2010-08-16T04:00:00.000-07:00

Ever wish you could communicate more effectively and efficiently?

Ever wish you knew how to start a conversation with a stranger?

Ever wish you could learn to "think" before you speak, or have magical words roll off the tip of your tongue?

Ever wish you could motivate and encourage others with words?

Ever wish you knew certain words which should be avoided?

Ever wish you could speak directly to the heart of a matter and leave others feeling "understood"?

Would you like to be a more effective listener?

Do you ever feel you are at a loss for words just when you need to speak up?

Would you like to know how to handle "complainers and venters"?

My special guest on Tuesday, August 17 @ Noon ET (9:00AM PT) (www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon) will be Lorri Allen, author, speaker, and radio host.

Lorri will discuss how to effectively communicate from every angle, and teach listeners steps to effective communications.

Lorri is the founder of "Good News!" a company that works with people who want to craft a clear media message and with organizations that want to communicate quickly, in a crisis.

She also coaches newsmakers who want to improve their ability to answer questions or who need confidence in front of reporters.

In addition, Lorri provides 'insurance" against looking silly or stupid on television.

Her clients have gone on to appear on PBS, the Home Shopping Network, and Good Morning America, as well as local news programs.

If you want to improve the quality of your communications, you won't want to miss this episode.
I truly hope you will join me August 17 @ Noon ET (9:00PT) www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon.

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru
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Make the Most of Your Words With the Media

2010-08-15T04:22:00.000-07:00

Have you ever wondered what a "soundbite" is?

Have you ever wondered what you should wear when making a promotional video?

Does the thoughts of talking with a reporter about a cover story for your business scare you?

What would you do if something great happened to you and reporters show up without notice?

God forbid, but what if something bad should happen at your business and reporters show up without an invitation?

It seems, sometimes, many reporters try to make people look like a fools during an interview. Would you like to be prepared for that, come accross looking really smart, and outwit the reporter?

There are certain phrases that should be avoided when talking to the media. Would you like to know what those are?

Would you like to have an abundance of resources to help you learn more about how to communicate with the media, and how to communicate more effectively in your social media correspondence?

If you answered yes to even one of these questions, you won't want to miss The Baby Boomers Sandwich Show www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon Tuesday, August 17th. at Noon ET (9:00AM PT).

I hope you will join me and my special guest Lori Allen,author, speaker, and radio host. Lorri will discuss how to effectively communicate with the media.

Lorri is the founder of "Good News!" a company that works with people who want to craft a clear media message and with organizations that want to communicate quickly, in a crisis.

She also coaches newsmakers who want to improve their ability to answer questions or who need confidence in front of reporters.

In addition, Lorri provides 'insurance" against looking silly or stupid on television. Her clients have gone on to appear on PBS, the Home Shopping Network, and Good Morning America, as well as local news programs.

If you want to improve the quality of your communications or learn how to more effectively communicate with the media, you won't want to miss this episode.

Sincerely,
Sandra-Caregiver Guru
P.S. Don't forget to claim your gifts at http://www.answersforboomers.com/

Communicating Encouragement to Caregivers

2010-08-14T04:00:00.000-07:00

Everyone needs encouragement, especially caregivers.

Would you like to know how to encourage and motivate with words?

Would you like to know certain phrases to use that leaves others feeling validated and understood?

Would you like to know how to have a meaningful conversation with someone who has Alzheimer's or some other form of dementia?

Would you like to know how to share "bad" news with family and friends? And, how to comfort them with your words?

My special guest on Tuesday, August 17 @ Noon ET (9:00AM PT) will be Lorri Allen, author, speaker, and radio host.

Lorri will discuss how to effectively communicate words of encouragement, and teach listeners steps to effectively communicate.

Lorri is the founder of "Good News!" a company that works with people who want to craft a clear media message and with organizations that want to communicate quickly, in a crisis.

She also coaches newsmakers who want to improve their ability to answer questions or who need confidence in front of reporters.

In addition, Lorri provides 'insurance" against looking silly or stupid on television. Her clients have gone on to appear on PBS, the Home Shopping Network, and Good Morning America, as well as local news programs.

If you want to learn how to communicate encouragement caregivers and others you won't want to miss this episode. Tuesday, August 17 @ Noon ET (9:00AM PT) www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru
P.S. Two gifts are waiting for you at http://www.answersforboomers.com/

Cancer Data Websites

2010-08-10T20:27:00.000-07:00

If you missed my show today you can still listen to it at www.BlogTalkRadio.com/sandra-haymon.

Georgia Armenta Yee, Officer Chief, Office of Health Registries Arizona Dept. of Health Services, was my guest AND Richard Porter, Bureau Chief, joined us!!

Here's some interesting information they shared with us.

1) The top three type cancers among female residents living in Arizona are: breast, lung and colon/rectal.

2) The top three type cancers for male residents living in Arizona are: prostate, lung and colon/rectal.

Here are some helpful websites:

1) For published annual reports of cancer data for Arizona: http://www.azdhs.gov/

2) For Survival Outcomes from the Centers for Disease Control: http://www.cdc.gov/cancer/NPCR

3) For death survival analysis: http://www.seer.cancer.gov/

4) For the Centers For Disease Control: http://www.cdc.gov/

And, if you have personal questions about any type cancer you may call:

1-800-4-Cancer (1-800-422-6237)

This was a great interview with lots of helpful information--information that not too many people know about.

You can listen to this and all other episodes on your computer while you continue to work in other windows: www.BlogTalkRadio.Com/sandra-haymon

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If there is any way we can help you, please contact us at: http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/.

Sincerely,

Sandra-Caregiver Guru

Adversity is a Necessity

2010-08-10T04:00:00.000-07:00

I wasjust thinking about adversity today and the necessity of contrast when I came upon this poem.

The most beautiful stones
have been
tossed by the wind
and washed by the water
and polished to brillance
by life's strongest storms.
Author Unknown

So, if you're in the midst of adversity put this poem where you can read it several times a day. And, visualize the brillant YOU that will emerge when the storm is over.

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Sincerely,
Sandra-Caregiver Guru

Cancer Data and You

2010-08-09T04:00:00.000-07:00

Just want to remind you that Georgia Armenta Yee, Officer Chief, Office of Health Registries Arizona Dept. of Health Services, will join me tomorrow, Tuesday, August 10 @ Noon ET (9:00AM PT) to answer all of our questions about cancer data--see yesterday's blog.

Ms. Yee will discuss the mandates which require that all diagnosis of cancer be reported at the state and federal levels.

She will also discuss why this data must be reported, how it is used,and how individual privacy is protected.

My special guest, Georgia Armenta Yee, is Officer Chief, Office of Health Registries Arizona Dept. of Health Services.

Ms. Yee has been with the Arizona Department of Health Services for over 20 years working with the Arizona State Cancer Registry.

She is involved with all operational aspects of running the registry.

Ms. Yee is also a Certified Tumor Registrar (CTR) and has a Bachelor of Social Work degree from Arizona State University.

She is an active member of the North American Association of Central Cancer Registries and has held various professional appointments.

You won't want to miss this opportunity to hear information not too many people know about.

Prepare for a most enlightening discussion, and join me tomorrow, Tuesday, August 10 @Noon ET (9:00Am PT) for the Baby Boomer Sandwich Show:
www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon

Sincerely,
Sandra-Caregiver Guru
P.S. Gifts await you at http://www.answersforboomers.com/

Are You in Alignment?

2010-08-08T04:00:00.001-07:00

Did you know that Monday morning at 6:07AM, August 9th. the date will be in perfect alignment--perfect order?

At 6:07AM it will be 6,7,8,9,10!!

Hour = Six,
Minutes = Seven
Month = Eight
Day = Nine
Year = Ten

Are you in alignment? Or, are you scattered about?

On Tuesday, August 24th, Eileen Roth, author of Organizing For Dummies, will be my special guest on The Baby Boomers' Sandwich Show: www.BlogTalkRadio.com/sandra-haymon. We will discuss the importance of being organized and having order in our lives.

Then, on 9/28/10, Kathleen Ronald will join me to dicuss the topic of "clutter." The title of that episode will be: "What's Your Clutter Costing You?" (I'll be writing more about Kathleen in upcoming blog posts.)

So, if you'd like to learn how to become more organized, bring greater order to your life, de-clutter and make room for more abundance, you won't want to miss these episodes.

Actually, I have GREAT guests every Tuesday at Noon ET (9:00AM PT).

Hope you will join me every week!

If you're not available during the time the show airs--not to worry--you may listen to all episodes 24/7 at www.BlogTalkRadio.com/sandra-haymon.

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru

Cancer Data Helps Find Cures

2010-08-08T04:00:00.000-07:00

Ever wonder where all those statistics about cancer come from?

Did you know that every diagnosis of cancer MUST be reported according to Federal and State mandates?

Would you like to know who reports this data and what's reported?

Would you lile to know why this information collected?

Would you like to know what this information is it used for?

Would you like to know what's included in the data?

Would you like to know how individual privacy is protected?

Would you like to know more about Cancer registries and what's happening at a national level?

Would you like to better understand what cancer clusters are and patterns of demographics?

My special guest, Georgia Armenta Yee, Officer Chief, Office of Health Registries Arizona Dept. of Health Services, will join me Tuesday, August 10 @ Noon ET (9:00AM PT) to answer all these questions. Ms. Yee will also discuss why it is important for all of us to know the answers to these questions.

Ms. Yee has been with the Arizona Department of Health Services for over 20 years working with the Arizona State Cancer Registry.

She is involved with all operational aspects of running the registry. Ms. Yee is also a Certified Tumor Registrar (CTR) and has a Bachelor of Social Work degree from Arizona State University.

She is an active member of the North American Association of Central Cancer Registries and has held various professional appointments.

You won't want to miss this opportunity to hear information not too many people know about.

Prepare for a most enlightening discussion, and join me Tuesday, August 10 @Noon ET (9:00Am PT) for the Baby Boomer Sandwich Show: www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon

Sincerely,
Sandra-Caregiver Guru
P.S. Gifts await you at http://www.answersforboomers.com/

Attn: Caregivers of Elderly Relatives

2010-08-04T17:37:00.000-07:00

Attn: Caregivers of Elderly Relatives

Did you know that according to The Natioal Alliance for Caregiving that there are 65.7 million caregivers in the U.S.?

This is 29% of the U.S. adult population and 31% of all U.S. households!

48.9 million caregivers are taking care of an adult and 3.9 million are taking care of a disabled child.

12.9 million care for both an adult and a disabled child.

41.9 million caregivers are women, while17 million men are taking care of an adult relative—usually their mother.

Are you the "designated caregiver" for your elderly relatives?

Do you often feel overwhelmed, frustrated, angry, and ashamed?

Are you afraid of not making the "right" decisions?

Do you question your judgment, and feel guilty no matter what you do?

Do you feel lonely and think no one understands what you're going through?

Are you torn between spending time with your spouse, your children, and the needs of your
parents?

Are you torn between your career and taking care of your parents?

Are you confused about levels of care, medical advance directives, and living arrangements?

In my latest book Baby Boomers--Sandwiched Between Retirement & Caregiving
I share everything I learned while caring for my mother and step-father (who were both in diapers), and from the experiences of hundreds of other caregivers with whom I worked in my practice as a psychologist.

I also added a thorough research of medical choices, legal jargon, living arrangements, assistance programs, and resources so that you'll have everything you need at your fingertips.

Plus, I have an entire section on how to prepare for retirement!

Smokie Sizemore will interview me regarding caregiving issues via telechat for Smart Womans Club http://smartwomansclub.com/teleclasses.asp. The call in number is 1-218-862-1300 then enter 989912#.

Hope you will join us Tuesday, August 17, 2010 at 8:00PM ET (5:00PM PT).

I will also be giving away TWO gifts:
The Caregiver’s Emotional Quiz – 100 Emotions That May Shock You as a Caregiver and How to Feel Good About All of Them, and
The Elderly “Red Flag” Checklist-117 Warning signs That Your Elderly Loved One May Not be Safet Living alone.

Check out my new website: http://www.answersforboomers.com/

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru

Retirement Life Matters

2010-08-02T22:32:00.000-07:00

Retirement is no longer the end of the line, but a new beginning, according to Cathy Severson. My special guest 8/3/10 @ Noon ET (9:00 AM PT) www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon

Here's some interesting information from Cathy that she will discuss.

Retirement and aging have been thought of as a time of decline. Psychologists now believe that aging provides opportunity for personal growth and development

With the extended life span has come the concept of the Third Age. The primary opportunity of Third Age is to live from the inside out.

While 75% of baby boomer’s report wanting to work passed retirement age, it’s not business as usual. They are looking for work that is fun, personally fulfilling and makes a difference.

Q. How is the concept of retirement changing?

A. Many people don’t know retirement came into existence in 1933 with the passage of the Social Security Act. The country was deep into the depression with an unemployment rate of 25%. President Roosevelt was concerned about rioting in the streets. Social Security was used to entice older men to retire, so younger workers would be employed. The reason lawmakers elected age 65 for retirement that was the average lifespan of the time.

Another thing has changed since then. Starting with Freud, most psychologists believed that human development ended by the early twenties. Not much growth occurred after adolescence. Aging was perceived as a time of decline.

Developmental psychologists have changed their ideas in the last generation. No longer is older adulthood thought to be a time of decline but actually one of personal development that is now referred to as the Third Age and Second Growth.

Q. Can you explain more about Third Age?
We are living in a most amazing period of time. Never before in the history of the human race have a significant percentage of people lived beyond their biological mandate.

For those of us who were around in the sixties, whether you participated in the drugs and rock and roll or not, you may remember that we were going to live life differently.

Then something happened. The one thing we swore wasn’t going to happen, we became our parents. We went out and got jobs, had babies, built homes in the suburbs. No matter how much we wanted to deny it, that biological urge was too much to ignore.

First age is learning or being a student.

Second age is being a worker and member of society. It is the age of achievement and acquisition.

Third Age is about self-actualizing, or living authentically. Third Age is about releasing the roles and externals that defined second age.

Adolescence was developed at the end of the nineteenth century. Before then you went from being a child to an adult. Third Age is actually being developed as the life span increases.

Q. What are the five keys to a satisfying retirement?
A. Well-being is about living in the now, accepting yourself and others, taking care of yourself. As we stated before, shifting from an external to an internal orientation.

I ask people to make a list of all the externals we use to define ourselves; our bodies, minds, roles, jobs, stuff acquired. These things aren't bad, except when our identity is tied to them.

Decline has always meant the loss of roles. But, it is through this loss of roles that we become free to truly be ourselves.

The activities we engage in, whether work, hobbies, play, volunteering are opportunities for us to express our true selves.

Staying connected. This is probably the number one reason people go back to work. They miss feeling connected and supported to others.

Play – Baby Boomers have forgotten how to play. They know how to indulge, but they’ve forgotten the childlike spontaneity of discovery, and enjoyment of being in the moment.

Challenges – Human beings need to be stimulated. We need to take risks and get outside our comfort zone. All the information that is coming out about the brain talks about how important it is to keep the brain active.

Meaning - Finally, we need to know our lives matter. This means being involved in something bigger than ourselves.

Q. How do these keys help people create a fulfilling retirement?
Instead of retiring away from life, baby boomers are looking for new ways to stay active and involved.

While 77% of baby boomers report they are going to continue to work into retirement, the focus for many is shifting from earning a living to work that is more about their purpose.

As baby boomers are entering their fifties and sixties, their children are going off on their own and the old itch to make a difference is returning.

For example, I had a client recently who retired at 51 from the entertainment industry. He would still like to earn some money, but is more concerned about finding work that is meaningful and about making a contribution.

We’re told by the media that baby boomers want to have an extended vacation for thirty years, but if you talk to baby boomers, most do not want a retirement like their parents.

The problem arises because most people don’t know how to make that transition. We’ve been so programmed to want it all, it’s hard to give that up.

Q. So, what do baby boomers want?
A. They want to know their lives have meaning. We’re told by the media that baby boomers want non-stop play. Don’t get me wrong. They want to have it all, but I see more and more people realize that 20 or 30 years of golf may not be satisfying.

The problem is they don’t know what will be satisfying. Many people are burned out from the stress of every day life and even though they like their work, they’re ready for a change.

Q. How do people successfully make the transition to retirement?
A. It’s really a two fold operation. The first part is a willingness to be comfortable with not knowing. We’ve gotten the idea that having a purpose is about something big that is "out there", but it’s just a little voice that’s inside saying we’re living authentically. People need to be willing to spend time listening to that voice.

The other part is a willingness to explore options and take risks. I had a wise minister once who said, “You can’t find Mr. Right sitting in your room with the doors locked and window shades drawn.’’ The same goes for purpose.

I’ve seen people make a list of activities and then go through each one and say, “No, that’s not my purpose, or that’s not my passion.” People need to get out, talk to others, take classes, volunteer, experiment and experience. Unfortunately, that’s all easier said than done. If you worked the same job for 20-30 years, lived in the same house, had the same friends, trying new things can be very daunting.

Q. What should they do?
A. Just as with any other major transition or change, a major key is having support. That was one of the reasons we decided to build our new website was to create a place where people could come together to share experiences and learn from each other.

Another thing is to just get in the habit of taking risks. Some think that humans prefer to do nothing when actually it’s quite the opposite. The human brain feels most alive when there is a challenge or a risk involved. The brain is like a muscle. If it hasn’t been used for a while, it may be sore at first and hard to use, but with time, it’ll get in shape.

Baby boomers want more options as they get older. They want meaningful experiences. For example, when they volunteer, they are not content to stuff envelops, but want to know that what they do is making a difference.

There seems to be a sense from many baby boomers that there is still a legacy that was started in the sixties that needs to be fulfilled. It seems many of us got sidetracked with making money and raising our families. People are looking for new ways in which they can impact the world.

Q. Give examples of how retirees are creating fulfilling lives.

Some are choosing work mostly for fun. JJ was a production supervisor at a plant in the valley and now works 3-4 days a week as an extra for television and movies.

Then there is Bill, a retired fireman who loves people and driving. When they need to move a fire truck from the east coast to the west, he drives it across the country. He also started a business driving people to the airport. He uses their car, drives them to the front gate and then when they return, he picks them up in their car and drives them home. His business has grown entirely by word of mouth.

Most often, work starts off small and then grows. I met a therapist who went to Africa on vacation, came home and started a foundation to help people in Tanzania. Now, when she isn’t working at her job, every minute is devoted to her foundation--raising money to help people in Africa.

Q. Do you have other examples?

Roseanne Salvo runs four discussion groups in California every single week, fifty-two weeks out of the year. I think she takes the major holidays off, but other than that, she is there.

They discuss books, culture, the arts and current events. When I asked her if she wanted to travel, she said no, she’d done that in her former life running an art gallery. She believes she needs to provide the consistency of the "being there" every week. Shehad one man who came every week for months and wouldn’t say a word. Then one day, he showed up and poured his heart out. She said he had no other place to share his feelings.

Roseanne is an example of someone who had an interest, in this case the arts and her discussion groups evolved out of it.

The problem arises when someone wants to do something differently, but doesn’t know what it is they want to do or how to get started.

Be sure to join us Tuesday, August 3rd. at Noon ET (9:00 AM PT) for more on how Retirement Life Matters. www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru

5 Keys to a Satisfying Retirement

2010-08-02T22:22:00.000-07:00

Why do people retire and what do they do after retirement?

Ever wonder where the idea of "retiring" came from in the first place?

If the "First" age is that period in life when we're learning as a student. And, the "second" age is the period when we're achieving and acquiring.

What's the "Third Age?" and "Second Growth?"

My special guest, Cathy Severson, MS, President, Retirement Life Matters will discuss these concepts as well as reveal the five keys to a satisfying retirement.

She will also discuss how you can make the transition into retirement.

These keys can help you have a fulfilling retirement life.

If you are retired or ever plan to retire you won't want to miss this episode.

This will be a great opportunity to get your questions about retirement answered from the expert. Please join us Tuesday, August 3rd. Noon ET (9:00AM PT) www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon
Sincerely,
Sandra-Caregiver Guru

10 Easy Exercise Tips to Reduce Pain and Improve Your Quality of Life

2010-07-26T23:05:00.000-07:00

Do you have chronic pain in your neck, back, knees, hips, shoulders, ankles, or other parts of your body?

Do you have an acute injury or suffer pain from overuse?

Do you have an old athletic injury that you've never been able to get completely over?

Or, are you an athlete who just wants to improve your performance?

Are you suffering pain from an industrial injury, or ache from manual labor?

Is your balance compromised due to pain in you feet?

Are you recovering from surgery?

Has your posture declined because of neck, back or shoulder pain?

Have you lost strength and mobility in your muscles and joints?

Have you fallen or been in an automobile accident that left you feeling stiff?

Is the lack of physical fitness an obstacle to your success in other areas of your life?

If you answered yes to even one of these questions, you won't want to miss this episode.

My special guest, Terry Roach, Registered Kinesiotherapist and President of Body Stabilization Training, Inc. will tell us how we can reduce, eliminate, and avoid pain in our bodies by using proper body mechanics.

Terry has overcome multiple traumas to her own body (bicycle crashes, punctured lung, broken ribs, lower back and neck surgeries)and has successfully returned to Masters World cycling competitions to defend her World titles and records.

Terry's remarkable recovery from all these accidents and insults is attributed to her Body Stabilization Training.

Be sure to tune in Tuesday, July 27, 2010 at Noon EDT (9:00AM PDT) as Terry discusses proper body mechanics which will relieve your pain and improve your quality of life! www.BlogTalkRadio.com/sandra-haymon

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/

Where Will Your Folks Live When They Can No Longer Live Alone?

2010-07-19T15:33:00.000-07:00

Do you ever worry about where your parents will live when they are no longer safe living alone?

Ever feel overwhelmed with all the choices of living arrangements?

Are you concerned about how to talk to your folks about the need to make such a life-changing decision?

Do you worry about whether you will know when the time has arrived that your folks can no longer live alone?

Ever wonder what the differences are between assisted living and skilled nursing care?

My special guest, Debbie Griffiths, RNC, and author of Little Lady, Big Dream will discuss the answers to these and many other questions associated with caring for an ill or aging loved one.

Debbie has spent most of her adult life caring for elderly residents.

She built her own assisted living facility and operaated it for almost a decade.

Have your questions ready and take advantage of this great resource.
www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon 11:00AM EDT
Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

Alzheimer's and You--Every 70 Seconds Someone is Diagnosed With Alzheimer's

2010-07-12T04:30:00.000-07:00

Do you have a relative or know someone who has Alzheimer's disease?

Ever worry that you might fall victim to this insidious disease?

Ever wonder what the risk factors are?

Ever wonder what the differencees are between Alzheimer's disease and other dementias?

Join me and my special guest, Debra Anderson, Programs Manager for the Alzheimer's Association-Desert Southwest Chapter, Tuesday, July 13, 2010 at Noon EDT (9:00AM PDT) - www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon.

Debra will answer these and many other questions about DAT (Dementia Alzheimer's Type).

She will also discuss the 10 warning signs, revelent statistics, and how all of this relates to you.

You won't want to miss this episode as Debra explores the reality that every 70 seconds someone in America develops Alzheimer's disease.

She will also discuss new programs for persons with an early stage diagnosis.

Debra may be contacted at:
Alzheimer's Association Desert Southwest Chapter
P.O. Box 27352
Yucson, AZ 85725-7352
www.alz.org/dsw or 520-322-6601 ext. 224

Sincerely,
Sandra - Garegiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

Common Dementias Including Alzheimer's

2010-07-11T04:30:00.000-07:00

Here's more information from the National Alzheimer's Association about common types of Dementia and their typical characteristics.

"Alzheimer’s disease is the Most common type of dementia and accounts for 60 to 80 percent of cases.

Characteristics include difficulty remembering names and recent events is often an early clinical symptom; apathy and depression are also often early symptoms. Later symptoms include impaired judgment, disorientation, confusion, behavior changes, and trouble speaking, swallowing and walking.

Hallmark abnormalities are deposits of the protein fragment beta-amyloid (plaques) and
twisted strands of the protein tau (tangles).

Vascular dementia (also known as multi-infarct or post-stroke dementia or vascular cognitive impairment) is considered the second most common type of dementia.

Impairment is caused by decreased blood flow to parts of the brain, often due to a series
of small strokes that block arteries.

Symptoms often overlap with those of Alzheimer’s, although memory may not be as
seriously affected.

Mixed dementia characterized by the presence of the hallmark abnormalities of Alzheimer’s and another type of dementia, most commonly vascular dementia, but also other types, such as dementia with Lewy bodies.

Dementia with Lewy bodies includes a pattern of decline which may be similar to Alzheimer’s, including problems with memory and judgment and behavior changes. Alertness and severity of cognitive symptoms may fluctuate daily. Visual hallucinations, muscle rigidity and tremors are common.

Hallmarks include Lewy bodies (abnormal deposits of the protein alpha-synuclein) that
form inside nerve cells in the brain.

Parkinson's disease - Many people who have Parkinson’s disease develop dementia in the later stages of the disease.

The hallmark abnormality is Lewy bodies (abnormal deposits of the protein alpha-synuclein)
that form inside nerve cells in the brain.

Frontotemporal dementia involves damage to brain cells, especially in the front and side regions of the brain.

Typical symptoms include changes in personality and behavior and difficulty with language.
No distinguishing microscopic abnormality is linked to all cases.

Pick’s disease, characterized by Pick’s bodies, is one type of frontotemporal dementia.

Creutzfeldt-Jakob disease is a rapidly fatal disorder that impairs memory and coordination and causes behavior changes.

Variant Creutzfeldt-Jakob disease is believed to be caused by consumption of products
from cattle affected by mad cow disease - caused by the misfolding of prion protein throughout the brain.

Normal pressure hydrocephalus - Caused by the buildup of fluid in the brain.
Symptoms include difficulty walking, memory loss and inability to control urine.
Can sometimes be corrected with surgical installation of a shunt in the brain to drain
excess fluid.

Mild cognitive impairment (MCI) is a condition in which a person has problems with memory, language or another essential cognitive function that are severe enough to
be noticeable to others and show up on tests, but not severe enough to interfere with daily life.

Some people with MCI go on to develop dementia. For others, the symptoms of MCI do not progress to dementia, and some people who have MCI at one point in time later revert to normal cognitive status.

To learn more about the potential role of MCI as a transitional state to early Alzheimer’s disease, see the section, Special Report: Mild Cognitive Impairment and Early-Stage Alzheimer’s Disease." www.alz.org/national/documents/reports

The National Alzheimer's Association provides invaluable information and services. I sincerely hope you will join me and my special guest, Debra Anderson, Programs Manager for the Alzheimer's Association-Desert Southwest Chapter, Tuesday, July 13, 2010 at Noon EDT (9:00AM PDT) - www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon.

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

Alzheimer's Statistics

2010-07-09T04:30:00.000-07:00

There are only four kinds of people in the world.

Those who have been caregivers
Those who are caregivers
Those who will be caregivers
Those who will need caregivers

According to the National Alzheimer's Association, there are nearly ten million (9.9) unpaid caregivers in the United States.

Every 70 seconds someone in American is diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease.

5.3 million Americans presently have Alzheimer's, and there is an estimated annual cost of $148 billion.

Alzheimer's disease is the 6th. leading cause of death in America.

Be sure to join me Tuesday at Noon EDT (www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon) to learn more about Alzheimer's disease and how these statistics may affect you.

Debra Anderson, Programs Manager for the Alzheimer's Association-Desert Southwest Chapter, Tucson, Arizona will be my guest. So, have your questions ready.

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

What is Dementia?

2010-07-08T22:24:00.000-07:00

Unfortunately, thousands of people ask this question every day.

According to the National Alzheimer's Association,

"Dementia is characterized by loss of or decline in memory and other cognitive abilities. It is caused by various diseases and conditions that result in damaged brain cells. To be classified as dementia, the following criteria must be met:
• It must include decline in memory and in at least one of the following cognitive abilities:
1) Ability to generate coherent speech or understand spoken or written language;
2) Ability to recognize or identify objects, assuming intact sensory function;
3) Ability to execute motor activities, assuming intact motor abilities, sensory function and comprehension of the required task; and
4) Ability to think abstractly, make sound judgments and plan and carry out complex tasks.

• The decline in cognitive abilities must be severe enough to interfere with daily life.

Different types of dementia have been associated with distinct symptom patterns and distinguishing microscopic brain abnormalities. Increasing evidence from long-term epidemiological observation and autopsy studies suggests that many people have microscopic brain abnormalities associated with more than one type of dementia.

The symptoms of different types of dementia also overlap and can be further complicated
by coexisting medical conditions. "

I will be writing more about dementia and particularly about Dementia Alzheimer's Type over the next several days leading up to my radio interview with Debra Anderson, Programs Manager for the Alzheimer's Association-Desert Southwest Chapter, Tucson, Arizona on Tuesday, July 13, 2010 at Noon EDT www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon .

I truly hope you will join me.

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

Shed or You're Dead!

2010-07-05T22:29:00.000-07:00

Ever feel that you're skin's too tight? Ever think you're stuck in old habits that keep you from growing, yet aren't sure how to shed those counter-productive habits?

Lizards grow by shedding their skin. If they don’t shed, they die.

Organizations and humans grow also. If they don’t shed, they die.

Stop! Reflect! What do you need to SHED?

What is holding you or your organization back?

Join me and my special guest, Kathy Dempsey,CSP, RN and award winning author of "Shed or You're Dead™: 31 Unconventional Strategies for Growth and Change" as she discusses today’s challenging market place and reminds us of the importance of shedding.

Kathy will talk about ways our own skin-shedding ability to adapt and navigate change is being tested now more than ever.

Kathy also encourages others to embrace the shedding philosophy that’s igniting thousands of individuals & organizations to thrive in these unpredictable times.

You won't want to miss this episode as Kathy discusses her complete Shed for Success™ system and how it empowers people to move forward with whatever is holding them back!

Have your questions ready and join us at 9:00AM PST www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

Independence

2010-07-04T22:18:00.000-07:00

Well, another Independence Day is almost over. I truly hope all of you enjoy the independence we may sometimes take for granted.

Not only is it a blessing to live in a free country, but if you are still living independently, that is another huge blessing!!

Think of the thousands of individuals who're living in assisted living facilities and nursing homes. And, how about all those who've lost the ability to drive and have to "depend" on others for transportation.

Worse yet, what about those who can no longer walk and have to "depend" on others to help them get from one room to another.

Or those who are bedridden and have to "depend" on others to keep them fed, clean and dry.

When I think about Independence Day, I think of Freedom--Freedom to walk and drive and live in our own homes, as well as live in the greatest nation on Earth and enjoy all the freedoms so many have given their lives for.

I thank everyone who is presently serving in our armed forces and all those who have ever served to protect our Freedom. And, I thank God for blessing our nation and me personally.

If you have loved ones in care facilities--go visit them. If you don't know anyone who's living in an assisted living facility or nursing, go visit someone there.

And, give thanks that you have freedom of movement to be able to go. It will bless their lives as well as yours.

I pray that I never take any of my Freedoms for granted.

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

31 Days to Millionaire Marketing Miracle$

2010-07-03T04:30:00.000-07:00

WOW!!!

I have just finished reading Tracy Repchuk's book: 31 Days to Millionaire Marketing Miracle$ (2009, InnerSurfPublishing). What an amazing piece of work!!!

If you've ever thought about getting into Internet Marketing, or just wondered how it all works--this book is for you!

After drinking deeply from the expansive and deep well of Internet Marketing Information, Tracy assimilated, synthesized and distilled the whole of it.

She then, regurgitated a complete manual that guides readers thru an otherwise complicated maze in a simple, easy to understand, interesting, and fun way.

And, if that were not awesome enough---she took this book from start to bestseller in 58 days!!

Having written and published two books, I am familiar with the amount of energy that goes into researching and writing. And, I cannot fathom the overwhelming task that Tracy undertook in this project.

I know Tracy personally and can attest that she is a genuine and sincere individual.

I highly recommend this book and anything Tracy Repchuk is associated with.

But, don't take my word for it. Go to Amazon.com, order this book today, and see for yourself if I have not actually understated the value of Tracy's accomplishment.

Here are several ways you might find out more information about Tracy and the awesome programs she offers:
http://www.marketingmakeovermaestro.com/
http://www.internetmarketingnewbieclub.com/
http://www.jvcoachingclub.com/
http://www.entrepreneurinoverdrive.com/

http://www.InternetMarketingNewbieClub.com

Sincerely,

Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

Consequences of Rushing Thru Life

2010-07-02T04:30:00.000-07:00

This was just too good to not pass along!

THE SITUATION

In Washington, DC, at a Metro Station, on a cold January morning in 2007, a man with a violin played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes.

During that time, approximately 2,000 people went through the station, most of them on their way to work.

After about 3 minutes, a middle-aged man noticed that there was a musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds, and then he hurried on to meet his schedule.

About 4 minutes later, the violinist received his first dollar. A woman threw money in the hat and, without stopping, continued to walk.

At 6 minutes, a young man leaned against the wall to listen to him, then looked at his watch and started to walk again.

At 10 minutes, a 3-year old boy stopped, but his mother tugged him along hurriedly.

The child stopped to look at the violinist again, but the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk, turning his head the whole time.

This action was repeated by several other children, but every parent - without exception - forced their children to move on quickly.

At 45 minutes, the musician played continuously. Only 6 people stopped and listened for a short while.

About 20 gave money but continued to walk at their normal pace. The man collected a total of $32.

After 1 hour, he finished playing and silence took over.

No one noticed and no one applauded.

There was no recognition at all.

No one knew this, but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the greatest musicians in the world.

He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written, with a violin worth $3.5 million dollars.

Two days before, Joshua Bell sold-out a theater in Boston where the seats averaged $100 each to sit and listen to him play the same music.

This is a true story. Joshua Bell , playing incognito in the D.C. Metro Station, was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste and people's priorities.

This experiment raised several questions:

*In a common-place environment, at an inappropriate hour, do we perceive beauty?

*If so, do we stop to appreciate it?

*Do we recognize talent in an unexpected context?

One possible conclusion reached from this experiment could be this:

If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world, playing some of the finest music ever written, with one of the most beautiful instruments ever made . . .

How many other things are we missing? And, what are the consequences of rushing thru life?

Sincerely,

Tomorrow May Be Your Turn

2010-07-01T14:35:00.000-07:00

I was touched by this and wanted to share it with you.

I wish I could credit the author, but have no idea who wrote this.

True Love

It was a busy morning, about 8:30, when an elderly gentleman in his 80's arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb.

He said he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am.

I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be more than an hour before anyone would to able to see him.

I saw him looking at his watch and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound.

On exam, it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to
remove his sutures and redress his wound.

While taking care of his wound, I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry.

The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing hometo eat breakfast with his wife.

I inquired as to her health.

He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer's Disease.

As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late.

He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now.

I was surprised, and asked him, 'And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?'

He smiled as he patted my hand and said, 'She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is.'

I had to hold back tears as he left.

I had goose bumps on my arm, and thought, 'That is the kind of love I want in my life.'

True love is neither physical, nor romantic.

True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.

The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have.

I hope you share this with someone you care about. I just did.

'Life isn't about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain.'

We are all getting Older.

Tomorrow may be your turn.

Sincerely,

Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

http://www.babyboomerssandwsich.com/

www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Tune Up Your Brain, Tune Up Your LIfe

2010-06-28T13:30:00.000-07:00

Tune Up Your Brain, Tune Up Your Life

For the past 9 days I've been blogging about Dr. Arnold Bresky's "Nine Point Brain Tune Up System." Now, you'll have an opportunity to ask him personal questions. Dr. Bresky will be my guest tomorrow at Noon EST (9:00AM PST): www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon.

Dr. Bresky will answer such questions as:
What is our number one fearn as we age.
What is memory and what are the different types of memory?
What causes Alzheimer's disease?
What are the statistics related to BAby Boomers and Alzheimer's disease?
What are the three primary causes of memory disorders?
What are the four pillars of brain health?
What is neurogenesis and neuroplasticity?
What is cognitive reserve?
What is Whole Person Centered Care?
What is the Dr. Bresky "Nine Point Tune Up System?
What are the two biomarkers of aging?
What is the new medical paradigm for the aging population?

Be sure to tune in as Dr. Bresky discusses the notion that it is not how long you live, but how well you live. He will also discuss how to protect your brain.

I truly hope you will join us tomorrow. Remember---Memory is life!

Sincerely,
Sandra--Caregiver Guru for the Caregive Generation. www.BabyBoomersSandwich.com

www.Youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Kindness -- Point #9

2010-06-27T05:30:00.000-07:00

Here's Point #9 from Dr. Arnold Bresky's Brain Tune Up System.

Kindness

Just as fun and laughter lifts our spirits, so do acts of kindness and generosity.

Take a few minutes during the course of each day to do something simple and kind for another.

You will not only make a positive impact in their life, but also your own.

Smile at a stranger who looks down, let a car in front of you on the freeway, give someone a sincere compliment.

Try it and see how performing simple acts of kindness improves your own mental outlook and disposition!

By signing up for the Brain Tune Up® Clubhouse, you will have full access to Dr. Bresky’s 9 Pt. System including the latest scientific research and ways to incorporate kindness into your everyday life.

I hope you've enjoyed these Brain Tune Ups, and find value in them. Also, it couldn't hurt to try them and see if you improve!

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Brain Exercises & Art Rx -- Point #8

2010-06-26T05:30:00.000-07:00

Here's Point #8 from Dr. Arnold Bresky's Brain Tune Up System

Brain Exercises & Art Rx

There’s growing evidence that the brain is like the body—you either use it or lose it!

Both brain exercises and art Rx stimulate the brain. Brain exercises such as crossword puzzles stimulate the left hemisphere of the brain.

Art Rx stimulates both hemispheres of the brain. Art Rx is not traditional art therapy, art or drawing art.

Art Rx asks you to draw an object, break that object down mechanically and logically, and then redraw the object.

Doing so causes cross-firing between the left and right hemisphere of the brain, accelerating the generation of new brain cells.

By signing up for the Brain Tune Up® Clubhouse, you will have full access to Dr. Bresky’s 9 Pt. System including the latest scientific research and original Brain Tune Up® activities.

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Care Gier Generation
http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.Youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Hydration -- Point #7

2010-06-25T05:30:00.000-07:00

Here's Point #7 from Dr. Arnold Bresky's Brain Tune Up System.

Hydration

Water is the Fountain of Youth! Proper hydration is vital to body and brain health.

Drinking at least six 8 oz. servings of water daily helps flush toxins from body tissues.

Most people are unaware that Myelin, a brain tissue, is easily destroyed by a build up of toxins.

For the health of your body and your brain make sure you drink enough water to keep your tissues toxin-free and well-hydrated!

By signing up for the Brain Tune Up® Clubhouse, you will have full access to Dr. Bresky’s 9 Pt. System including the latest research and ways to incorporate proper hydration into your everyday life.

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
www.BabyBoomersSandwich.com www.Youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Eating Plan -- Point #6

2010-06-24T05:30:00.000-07:00

Here's Point #6 from Dr. Arnold Bresky's Brain Tune Up System.

Eating Plan

The Brain Tune Up® Eating Plan—Based on the Mediterranean diet.

Dr. Bresky recommends we eat fresh, seasonal foods low in fat and high in omega 3’s.

The Mediterranean diet can lower the risk of serious cognitive impairment by 40%. Omega 3’s help retain Myelin brain tissue.

By signing up for the Brain Tune Up® Clubhouse, you will have full access to Dr. Bresky’s 9 Pt. System including the latest research and recipes to enjoy the Brain Tune Up® Eating Plan.

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for he Caregiver Generation
http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.Youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Physical Exercise -- Point #5

2010-06-23T05:30:00.000-07:00

Here'[s Point #5 from Dr. Arnold Bresky's Brain Tune Up System

Physical Exercise

We all know that optimal physical health is a necessity.

There are many different ways to achieve this, no matter what our age or current physical condition.

Even 9 minute intervals of exercise done 3 times a day will significantly improve physical health.

Physical exercise improves circulation and proper blood flow insures health and vitality in all areas of the body, including the brain.

When we exercise, growth hormones cause stem cells in the brain to grow. As always, check with your doctor before beginning a new exercise routine.

By signing up for the Brain Tune Up® Clubhouse, you will have full access to Dr. Bresky’s 9 Pt. System including the latest research and ways to enjoy physical exercise.

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.Youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Just LIsten -- Dr. Mark Goulston

2010-06-22T10:39:00.000-07:00

Just Listen

I just interviewed Dr. Mark Goulston (blogtakradio.com/sandra-haymon), best selling author of Just Listen, Get Out of Your Own Way, and Get Out of Your Own Way at Work.

What a treat!!! Not only does Dr. Goulston share empowering information, he is genuine, caring, and easy to listen to. I highly recommend his book Just Listen to anyone who wants to communicate in ways that help others make positive changes in their lives.

In Just Listen Dr. Goulston offers the following techniques, which he says "take just minutes, but they can change the course of a business project, a sale, a relationship, or even a life."

* Do You Really Believe That?

* The Power of Hmmm...

* The Stipulation Game.

* The Impossibility Question.

* The Power Thank You.

I will blog more about these later, but if you want to learn more now--

go to http://www.markgoulston.com/.

Dr. Goulston also offers free resources, coaching videos, and lots more!!

Sincerely,

Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.Youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Sleep -- Point #4

2010-06-22T05:30:00.000-07:00

Here's Point #4 from Dr. Arnold Bresky's Brain Tune Up System.

Sleep

Getting 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep is essential for the brain to go into deep REM sleep.

During REM the brain heals itself and memories form.

People who are sleep deprived have impaired cognitive function.

Did you know a sleep deprived person is as dangerous behind the wheel as someone who has had too much to drink?

By signing up for the Brain Tune Up® Clubhouse, you will have full access to Dr. Bresky’s 9 Pt. System including the latest scientific research and ways to make sure you get plenty of sleep.

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.Youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Get Thru to Absolutely Anyone!

2010-06-21T22:22:00.000-07:00

Get Thru to Absolutely Anyone!!

Ever tried to get through to others by using logic, flattery, forcefulness, pleading, screaming...yet felt that you were not being heard?

My special guest, Dr. Mark Goulston, psychiatrist and author of "Just Listen" and "Get Out of Your Own Way at Work and Help Others Do The Same," will reveal the "secret" to getting through to absolutely anyone.

Dr. Goulston will discuss how to be so effective in your communications that others actually make positive changes in their lives.

Dr. Goulston explains that his methods succeed because they create "traction" rather than "resistance".

He reveals ways to pull others toward you even when they are trying to pull away. You won't want to miss this episode as Dr. Goulston discusses the reality that it is not what we tell others but what we enable them to tell us that makes a difference--a difference which includes "positive change."

Join us Tuesday, 6/22/10 @ Noon EST. blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon
See you on the radio!
Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
www.BabyBoomersSandwich.com www.Youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Tunes Rx--Point #3

2010-06-21T05:30:00.000-07:00

Here's Point #3 from Dr. Arnold Bresky's Brain Tune Up System

Tunes Rx

Once thought of simply as entertainment, music is now being recognized as a vital cognitive tool. When utilized properly, music can enhance our ability to learn, uplift our spirits, and calm us when we’re stressed or agitated.

Dr. Bresky recommends certain musical selections to uplift and others to calm.

He also recommends we listen to whatever music brings us pleasure for a few minutes during the course of each day.

Doing so elevates our mood and energy level—and we all want elevated moods and energy levels!

By signing up for the Brain Tune Up® Clubhouse, you will have full access to Dr. Bresky’s 9 Pt. System including the latest scientific research and musical selections proven to provide various types of therapies.

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.Youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Relaxation, Meditation & Prayer--Point #2

2010-06-20T05:30:00.000-07:00

Here's point #2 from Dr. Arnold Bresky's Brain Tune up System.

Relaxation, Meditation & Prayer

Relaxation, Meditation and Prayer—Chronic stress shrinks the hippocampus, the area of the brain associated with memory. It also produces cortisol, which blocks glucose from the brain. Deep breathing exercises relax both the mind and body.

Set aside time each day to breathe deeply and commune with your inner self and higher power.

This centers you and helps you deal with daily stresses.

However you choose to relate to your creative source, Dr. Bresky recommends you do so for a few minutes when you wake and before you retire.

When practiced, this point of the doctor’s program alone will dramatically improve your overall health and well-being, as well as your ability to think clearly.

By signing up for the Brain Tune Up® Clubhouse, you will have full access to Dr. Bresky’s 9 Pt. System including the latest scientific research and various methods to achieve Relaxation, Meditation & Prayer.

Sincerely,

Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

www.BabyBoomersSandwich.com www.Youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Fun & Laughter--Brain Improvement Point #1

2010-06-19T05:30:00.000-07:00

Here's Point #1 from Dr. Arnold Bresky's Brain Tune Up System.

Fun and Laughter

Just as adequate sleep is a necessity, not a luxury, so is fun and laughter! Many of us don’t realize how crucial it is to enjoy ourselves during the course of each day.

Enjoying ourselves and laughing releases endorphins in our brain and elevates our mood. It also improves our immune system and opens blood vessels in our brain.

A sense of humor helps us deal with the challenges life throws our way.

By signing up for the Brain Tune Up® Clubhouse, you will have full access to Dr. Bresky’s 9 Pt. System including the latest scientific research and ways to be sure you incorporate enough fun and laughter in your everyday life.

Sincerely,
Sandra-Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
Http://www.BabyBoomersSandwich.com www.Youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Brain Tune Up System--Dr. Arnold Bresky

2010-06-18T05:30:00.000-07:00

I host an Internet radio show, Baby Boomers' Sandwich, every Tuesday at Noon EST, and I absolutely have the most interesting guests. On June 29th. Dr. Arnold Bresky will be my guest. He is a most facinating man who is always on the cutting edge.

He has a new TV show and a new website featuring his Brain Tune Up® System and his new Clubhouse. Here's one of his tips listed on his website:www.mybraintuneup.com/clubhouse

"Take charge of your health! You have to believe in self-care with behavioral lifestyle changes and not just quick fixes. Remember the 4 basic pillars of brain health are: 1. Physical Activity, 2. Mental Activity, 3. Social Activity, 4. Good Cardiovascular Health. Each one of the 9 Points fits into one of these areas."

I will be sharing Dr. Bresky's 9 points over the next 9 days. According to Dr. Bresky, whether you are a baby boomer and just want to keep your brain sharp, or whether you already have memory loss and cognitive decline--his 9 point system can help anyone improve.

Here's another brain tip from Dr. Bresky.

" Not finding this week's Point 1 Fun and Laughter choices funny? Well it's hard to tickle everyone's funny bone everytime. Or maybe you just need a little more to get your 9+ hearty laughs today. Do you have any old comedy videos tucked away that make you chuckle? Are there comics in your morning newspaper that make you giggle when you read them? And don't forget that you can always just start laughing, which may inspire others to join in. The important thing is that you can't be depressed when you are laughing. Laughter truly is the best medicine!"

Hope you enjoy his tips as much as I do. Plus, I find implementing them to be beneficial.
Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.Youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Internet Summit - Los Angeles

2010-06-17T05:30:00.000-07:00

My husband and I are off to an Internet summit in Los Angeles early this morning. Twelve of the world's most renown Internet gurus will share their knowledge with those of us priviledged enough to attend. (http://www.dreamstorealitysuccesssummit.com/).

It begins on Friday. I realize this is short notice, but if you are in the area and would like to attend, you can come as my guest. Use code VIP47 when you register.

Tracy Repchuck is my Recurring Riches for Life Coach. She is also the bestselling author of 31 Days to Millionaire Marketing Miracles, and will be one of the presenters. She is an amazing woman with an incredible story.

If you want to turn your Passion into Profits - you can get your free report at: http://www.millionairemarketingmiracles.com/

Sincerely,

Sandra--Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

An Aging Well Tip--The Great Paradox

2010-06-16T21:52:00.000-07:00

A few months ago I joined the National Speaker's Assoction-AZ, and as a candidate, I get to learn from the best of the best. Here's a great article from a member of NSA-AZ, Beth S. Cole. Beth can be reached at:

http://www.beth-cole.com/ or www.agingwellcoach.com/ .

An Aging Well Tip--The Paradox

A Great paradox--efforting coexisting with ease.

This may be one of the most perplexing of life’s mysteries – learning to relax in the midst of great exertion. Many of us feel that we have to do one or the other: take it easy OR give it our all. Doing both at the same time can be a difficult concept to internalize. I know for sure that the two opposites need to coexist within us. Many secrets lie in understanding how to be completely at ease when boring full speed ahead. When we recognize this dichotomy – when we adjust to what at first seems like a contradiction, we can achieve more satisfactorily, be efficient and pursue our goals with elegance.

I had my first AHA! moment about this topic in 1988. I have always loved competitive sports and while watching the Olympics that year I saw an amazing performance by sprinter Florence Joyner (also known as “Flo-Jo”). She finished the 100 meter race about 3/10 of a second ahead of her nearest rival and as she glided across the finish line, she was smiling, calm, and totally in the moment. She was running faster than any woman ever had and yet she appeared to be totally relaxed. She exerted as much as she could while still staying “loose.” It was obvious even on the television screen that she had mastered this technique. I thought it was a miracle and I truly wanted to replicate that in my life.

I didn’t though. I kept up my frenzied life of working long hours, being ambitious, trying to be a “supermom” to my three girls. In the midst of all the busyness, I rarely felt relaxed. I loved what I did in those days so I enjoyed my life but I constantly PUSHED.

It has taken many years for me to see the value of this challenge.

I can still find it difficult more than I would like to let go in a moment of concentration or intense work. Yet when I do, I always seem to find a special gift, which often is discovery of an easier and better way to do a task.

Wise men and women have been advising us for centuries to surrender. They have written about finding the ease in the midst of tension and then feeling the joy in a significant release.

I just wanted to write a reminder for you and me.

Beth S. Cole

Thank you Beth. I needed to be reminded of this Truth!

Sincerely,

Sandra--Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.comsandrawhaymon

Ethical Decision Making

2010-06-15T08:11:00.000-07:00

Remember to join me and Viki Kind today @ Noon EST blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon as we discuss ethical decision making for family & professional caregivers."

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
www.babyboomerssandwich.com www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Fear of Death Among the Elderly--Part Two

2010-06-15T07:30:00.000-07:00

I believe that the difference between Heaven and Hell is not so much the climate as the company. Living in a world populated by people like themselves would, for many be Heaven. And for others, it would indeed be Hell.

(Richard Paul Evans)

It is common for elderly folks to ask others what they believe about death. Often these types of questions are veiled attempts to clarify their own beliefs.

A good way to help elderly loved ones gain clarification is to turn the question back to them or ask these or other self-discovery questions.

For example, you might ask these or similar questions: "What have you been taught about an afterlife?" "What do you hope happens after death?" "What have you envisioned it might be like after death?" "Is there some thought about death that brings you comfort?" "Where do you turn for strength?"

Views about death itself and spiritual life after death depend largely on cultural and/or religious teachings, as well as individual frameworks.

Sincerely,

Sandra -- Caregiver uru for the Caregiver Genertion

http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Care-grieving and Kind Ethics

2010-06-14T08:42:00.000-07:00

Are you experiencing care-grieving?

Please join me Tuesday, June 15, 2010 @ Noon EST: www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon. Viki Kind will be my guest. Viki is a clinical bioethicist, medical educator, hospice volunteer and the author of: The Caregiver’s Path to Compassionate Decision Making – Making Choices for Those Who Can’t.

If you are a caregiver for an elderly loved one, how would you answer these questions?
1. Does your loved one have the ability to make his or her own decisions?
2. Based on past conversations, do you know what your loved one would want in various medical situations?
3. How can you keep your elderly loved one included in ways that are safe for her/him to participate?

Wouldn't it be a relief to know that you are making decisions your loved one would want?

Join me and Viki as we discuss ways caregivers can be empowered to make appropriate, kind and ethical decisions.

We will look at ways families and healthcare professionals might be guided through the process of making decisions for those who are losing or have lost capacity to make decisions for themselves.

We will also discuss Viki's adaptable system for making difficult choices, including end-of-life decisions, while respecting the individual's values and beliefs. This is not a one-size-fits-all solution but can be adapted depending on the person's level of incapacity and the situation.

Who should listen? Any and everyone caring for elderly loved ones, especially those diagnosed with Alzheimer's (or other types of dementia), strokes, brain injuries, mental illness, developmental delays or other mental limitations will benefit from listening to this episode.

Listeners will learn the decision-making pathway and tools to help give voice to those who can't speak for themselves.

Listeners will also learn specific strategies, questions to use, and how these tools will work in real life situations.

Respect and compassion are the core values of this decision-making process.

Whether you a professional caregiver or a family caregiver, you will come away feeling more knowledgeable and confident about making decisions for those in your care.

As Viki would say: "Have a kind and respectful day."
Sincerely,
Sandra-Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Fear of Death Among the Elderly--Part One

2010-06-14T07:30:00.000-07:00

The worst of all fears is the fear of living.

(Theodore Roosevelt)

Many individuals are terribly afraid to let go of the known and move into a realm of the unknown.

Fears about death itself vary according to individual frameworks. However, common fears have to do with the afterlife.

Many report fearing the unknown and what may or may not await them

If that is an expressed fear of elderly loved ones, this might also be an indirect request to see family members they haven't seen for a long time.

When folks know their time is limited, they are sometimes willing to take emotioal risks they have avoided in the past.

You, as a caregiver, might ask if there's anyone they've been thinking about or anyone they'd like to see.

Some might ask to see or talk with a family member they haven't seen in a while or an old lover or friend from their school years.

Some report having "dream visits" from individuals they long to see or perhaps have unfinished business with.

Some fear talking about death will somehow speed the process. This, of course is not true.

Sincerely,

Sandra -- Caregiver Guru for the Caregivier Generation

http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Caregiver's Path to Compassionate Decision Making

2010-06-13T07:30:00.000-07:00

Please join me Tuesday, June 15, 2010 @ Noon EST: www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon . Viki Kind will be my special guest. Viki is a clinical bioethicist, medical educator, hospice volunteer and the author of The Caregiver’s Path to Compassionate Decision Making – Making Choice for Those Who Can’t.

Here's a recent article Vicki wrote which I hope you will find as inspiring as I did.

"Sometimes as caregivers, we try to protect the person in our care and to stay strong for everyone else in the family. We pretend that nothing is wrong even in the midst of very difficult situations. This isolates us—and our loved ones even more.

Instead, reach out and begin talking about how each of you is coping. Allow the person to share his or her emotions, even the loud and scary emotions. Be still and listen with your full attention. Turn off the phone and the television.

Be present with your loved one’s suffering because as you listen, you help the person heal. Then it will be your turn to speak your truth. Your fears and concerns are not a burden to your family but something that everyone is thinking and too afraid to speak out loud.

If your loved one’s medical condition has begun to worsen, or the process of dying has begun, ask what your loved one would like to have happen. Include the individual in every way you can think of so he or she can retain some sense of control and power.

Imagine how hard it must be to know that your mind is going or to feel your body changing right before your eyes. Even though you can’t control what is happening, one of the greatest gifts you can give your loved one is to hear his or her needs and wishes. And then, each time you have to make a decision or to talk about life and medical choices, remember to start from your loved ones perspective.

I realize that watching your loved one suffer is difficult for you, the caregiver, but keep in mind how difficult it is for your loved one. Perhaps you can be a little more patient or a little more respectful.

Maybe before you lash out in frustration with the person you are caring for, you can stop, catch your breath and try to be more understanding, compassionate and kind. I know you are human and you can’t be nice all the time.

I know I have been frustrated and less than loving at times when taking care of my family members. But I also know we can strive to be better—not perfect, but better. It’s not easy, but we can choose to do a little better every day.

Have a kind and respectful day.
viki@kindethics.com "

I do hope you'll join us for this most enlightening episode.
Sincerely,
Sandra -- Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Helping Elderly Loved Ones Reduce Internal Unrest.

2010-06-12T07:30:00.000-07:00

Comedy is tragedy plus time.

(Carol Burnette)

Research suggests humor (watching funny movies, funny television programs, or re-runs of funny episodes) and laughing releases endorphins that reduce pain and boost the immune system as well as offer individuals a heightened sense of well-being.

Other practices that might be beneficial in reducing internal unrest include relaxation techniques, listening to relaxing/classical music, reading, meditating, chanting, praying, Shamanic treatments, herbal remedies, acupuncture, exercising, massages, and getting sunlight and fresh air.

Caregivers might also encourage elderly loved ones to so whatever they need to do in order to make amends or complete unfinished business in order to attain the peace they desire.

The Greek origin of the word "crisis" connotes opportunity and possibility. So it is with the final stage of life. Regardless of an individual's religious, spiritual, or philosophical framewwork, spiritual growth is possible for almost everyone, right up to the end of life.

Spiritual growth does not, however, necessarily diminish pain and suffering.

It has been suggested that unresolved issues and fear are the two most important factors in determining the level of resistance individuals will experience when facing death.

Sincerely,

Sandra -- Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Helping Elderly Loved Ones Find Value and Meaning--Part Three

2010-06-11T16:43:00.000-07:00

The average man (woman) does not know what to so with his/her life,

yet wants another one that will last forever.

(Anatole France)

When some people become unable to participate in physical activities, they focus their energy, time, and atention on spiritual matters and personal reflection.

Some who have "wandered from the fold" make a concerted effort to return to the teachings of their youth and renew covenants and religious practices and traditions.

Some request a picture or statue of Christ or other religious or cultural figures, or rosary beads, prayer shawl, or prayer books to use when praying.

Others may ask for scriptures or other religious books to read or listen to, or for small altars or shrines to be constructed.

Some may request particular objects or potions believed to have healing powers.

Yet others may request that caregivers and family members pray with and/or for them.

Some request their names to be placed on prayer rolls so others might pray for them.

Take time to explore personal desires of those you are charged with taking care of.

Sincerely,

Sandra -- Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Helping Elderly Loved Ones Find Value and Meaning--Part Two

2010-06-10T07:30:00.000-07:00

Look at everything as though you were seeing it either for the first or last time.

Then your tine on earth will be filled with glory.

(Betty Smith, A Tree Grown in Brooklyn)

Thinking about, as well as creating a written list, of the things and people we are thankful for and the blessings and positive events in our lives releases neuro-chemicals, which help fight depression, boost the immune system, and enable us to feel nbetter in general.

It may be helpful, for you as well as your elderly loved ones, to write down something you and they are thankful for that begins with each letter of the alphabet every day and try not to use the same words two days in a row.

Reframing one's situation often enables individuals to cope by finding meaning and value in their present situation.

This time in life might provide a good opportunity to tell their life's story. They might want to write their memoirs or record their story on DVD so their heirs might have the opportunity to enjoy it.

Sincerely,

Sandra -- Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Helping Elderly Loved Ones Find Value and Meaning--Part One

2010-06-09T15:49:00.000-07:00

In every language, every culture, the most difficult words you have to say are:

"I'm sorry. Forgive me."

Desmond Tutu

Spiritual and religious frameworks offer a means of evaluating one's life. Indiviuduals may search for ways to "make wrongs right." They may also seek ways to be forgiven so they might be released from guilt and shame.

For some individuals, this might come only by means of formal "confession" to a member of the clergy Therefore, you might ask your elderly loved ones if they would like a private visit with a priest, minister, bishop, or other spiritual leader.

They may also need to forgive others for perceived past transgressions.

When loved ones are angry, bitter, or resentful and seem unable to get out of their victim role, it might be helpful to encourage them to reframe their experience and look at their situation from a different perspective.

In a loving way, you might suggest they focus more on what they can do rather than what they can't do. They may no longer be able to walk, but perhaps they can sit and write names on the backs of photos and put those into albums.

They might be able to make phone calls for a charitable organization, read to pre-school children or help a child or adult leard to read.

Help them create a list of things they could do and would enjoy doing. Then find ways to make those things happen. This will help them to focus on ways they can continue to make contributions to their families and to society in general.

Sincerely,

Sandra -- Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

This too shall pass--dementia related agitation and rage.

2010-06-08T14:02:00.000-07:00

It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye. Antoine DeSaint-Exupery

It is not uncommon for individuals suffering rom dementia to become agitated and often fly into fits of rage without warning. Remember, this too shall pass.

There are a number of medications which may help keep agitation and rage to a minimum, and these are certainly indicated for some individuals. However, there are many things you, as a caregiver, might do to help your loved ones remain calm.

First, ensure that you remain calm and do not take anything your elderly loved ones say as a personal attack on you. Their agitation and/or rage is not about you!

Second, lower your voice when attempting to soothe agitated individuals, and ensure that you are coming from a place of love. The feeling you communicate is far more important than the words you speak.

Third, always be reassuring. Whatever their fears are--reassure them that everything will be alright and that you will stay with them.

Fourth, ensure that they are not cold. A nice blanket aroung their shoulders or a lap guilt may help them to feel more secure. Also, offer them their favorite beverage or food.

Fifth, if possible, have them take several deep breaths with you. Oxygen is more calming than Valium!

You might also try distracting them very much like you would a child that is tantruming. Have photo albums nearby and try to get them to look at old photos with you and talk about times past.

If your loved one experiences sundowning, be prepared and get a head start each afternoon before their agitation gets out of control.

A few drops of lavender oil on their collar or a tiny drop between their upper lip and nose may help to keep them calm. Also, soft, soothing music may be helpful for them and for you!

Sincerely,

Sandra -- Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Three Ways to Avoid Losing Your Assets to Long Term Care

2010-06-07T19:26:00.000-07:00

Hope you can join me tomorrow (6/8/10) at 12:00 noon EST. www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon for the episode "Three Ways to Avoid Losing Your Assets to Long Term Care."

My special guest, Noah Kendrick (Financial Advisor) will discuss ways to protect your retirement income from the risk of long-term care expenses and how to protect your investments from being sold to pay for long term care. He will also review a new option (Self Insuring) which allows money designated for long-term care to remain liquid. You won't want to miss this episode.

See you on the radio!
Sincerely,
Sandra -- Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Personal update.

2010-06-07T13:50:00.000-07:00

Wow! I can hardly believe it's been nearly a week since I posted a blog. I have had the pleasure of my two sister's and brother-in-law's company for the past couple of weeks, and we spent some time in San Carlos, Mexico. It is absolutely beautiful there.

Now, to dig from under a hundred-plus e-mails, and get back into my routine. It is hot here in Marana, Arizona, but we have lovely breezes off the Santa Catalina Mountains in the back of our house and the Tortolita Mountains in the front. So, it's really quite nice.

Our sunsets are all so beautiful that we've almost quit taking photos of them because we were taking them every afternoon. We also watch the moon "rise" over the Catalinas and full moons are awesome!!

My friend (Patty) is still struggling with taking care of her mother and her husband who had a knee replacement. Thanks to all of you who've asked about her.

Take care and remember that "All the art of living, lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on." (Havelock Ellis)
Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Sandwich Generation
http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Behavioral Signs of Spiritual Unrest in Elderly

2010-06-01T09:10:00.000-07:00

There is no distance on this earth as far away as yesterday.

Robert Nathan

Behavioral signs of spiritual unrest or spiritual crisis may include self-injurious behaviors, constantly hollering out for others to help them, and frantically asking advice from others. Begging for pain medication or to be "put out of their misery." repeatedly questioning "Why me?' withdrawing from others, and refusing to help with their own baths or with feeding themselves all suggest a lack of resolve. Anger outbursts and/or power struggles with family members or other caregivers further imply a lack of internal peace.

Spiritual and religious frameworks offer a means of evaluating one's life. I will write more about this later.

Sincerely,

Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Blog Talk Radio-Connecting Beyond the Name Tag

2010-05-31T19:17:00.000-07:00

Happy Memorial Day and thanks to all who have served to ensure our freedom and safety!!! There is great love and appreciation and admiration for you!!!!

Please join me tomorrow, Tuesday, June 1, 2010 @12:00 noon EST (9:00AM PST), http://www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon for the episode, "Blending Old School Networking with Social Media." Do you have difficulty getting beyond the name tag? Want to become a power networker? My special guest, Dr. William Saleebey, author of "Connecting Beyond the Name Tag" and I will discuss fundamental differences between old school networking and current social media. Dr. Saleebey will also explain why individual differences are so important in understanding how we make connections with others.

You won't want to miss this episode.
Sincerely, Sandra-Caregiver Guru for he Caregiver Generatiojn
http://www.babyboomerssandwich.com/ www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Unresolved Past Isues Between Caregivers and their Elderly Loved Ones

2010-05-31T08:53:00.000-07:00

True reconciliation does not consist in merely forgetting the past.

Nelson Mandela

Unresolved past issues may manifest in physical and psychological symptoms, such as anxiety, shortness of breath, panic attacks, restlessness, agitation, depression, insomnia, and nightmares. Generalized pain or pain that frequently changes location and is not alleviated with sufficient pain medication are other expressions of unresolved issues. Being afraid to die and conmcerns about afterlife also suggests individuals are unsettled about their past.

Sometimes individuals who are struggling with issues from their past may have feelings of dispair or feel that they have been abandoned by God, deity, or deities. They may refuse to take medicines secondary to the belief that they deserve to suffer--to be in pain and to be punished. They may also refuse pain medications beause hey want to be alert and maintain some sense of control of their faculties.

I'll write more about behavioral signs of spiritual unrest tomorrow. Happy Memorial Day, and thanks to all who have served and sacrificed to keep us safe and free--including allo family members who have worried and prayed and suffered the loss of loved ones in the pursuit of freedom!

Sincerely,

Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

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The Importance of Rituals for the Elderly and Their Caregivers

2010-05-30T08:29:00.000-07:00

We grow neither better nor worse as we grow old, but more like ourselves.

May Lamberton Becker

For many elderly individuals rituals offer comfort and a sense of being in control at a time when there are few things within the realm of their control. Certain rituals, like saying prayers each morning and/or evening, may help some to feel a sense of normalcy.

Even rituals such as getting a bath and eating meals at the same times each day may offer a sense of security and predictability. For some, religious or spiritual practices and traditions are comforting.

It may be helpful to follow rituals and set paterns in order to establish and maintain a sense of security for your elderly loved ones.

Wishing you all a safe and wonderful Memorial Day weekend. Remember those who've served ans made sacrifices for our freedom. Many of whom are the elderly individuals we are given the opportunity to now serve.

Sincerely,

Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

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Empathic Presence - A Gift from Caregivers

2010-05-29T08:08:00.000-07:00

I slept and dreamed that life was joy. I awoke and saw that life was service.

I acted and behold, service wa joy.

Rabindranath Tagore

Empahic listeners are relaxed but engaged at the same time. They ask questions and explore without prying.

Empathic presence includes providing a non-judgemental environment, which offers psychological permission to talk openly and honestly. The listener maintains appropriate eye contact and offers reassuring, appropriate touches if culturally acceptable.

Empathic presence also requires listening beneath and beynd the spoken words for deeper meanings, acknowledging the other's suffering, and validating her/his feelings.

Empathic listeners may be required to admit hen they don't have answers. Empathic presence may also necessitate being happy and rejoicing in another's accomplishments at a level of genuine sincerity that conveys to the other person her/his importance.

Empathic presence decreases feelings of abandonment and isolation. It may also allow indiciduals to come to terms with their own internal struggles while affirming their dignity, self-worth, and personhood.

Give the gift of love--empathic presence!

Sincerely,

Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

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Listening - an Act of Love for Caregivers

2010-05-28T07:48:00.000-07:00

Presence is more than just being there.

Malcolm S. Forbes

Sometimes just feeling "heard" might be enough to reduce anxiety and lessen a person's distress. Therefore, it is vitally important to provide opportunities for your elderly lover ones to talk about their fears and help them identity sources of comfort.

Engaging elderly folks in a review of their life and helping them affirm their personal contributions that added value and meaning to the lives of others may help them feel better about this stage in their lives.

You might begin this process by simply asking them to tell you what they are most proud of or about the happiest time in their life. You might also ask them how they would like to be remembered.

Listening is an act of love, and empathic presence involves total engagement with the person to whom you are listening.

I will write more about this tomorrow. Take care and love others by listening to them.

Sincerely,

Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

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End Stage of Life--An Emotional Time

2010-05-27T09:25:00.000-07:00

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. Ralph Waldo Emerson

The end stage of life can be an emotional time for you (as caregiver), other family members, and for elderly persons being cared for. Tensions and resistance can often be held to a minimum when individuals are patient with themselves, with those they are taking care of, and with other family members. Let go of past hurts and focus on the moment.

Perhaps you have been chosen to care for this other human being for a reason. It would be counterproductive to exchange your time, energy, and emotions for anything less than a wonderful opportunity to grow and learn and to connect not only with the other person but also with yourself at a level of intimacy possible only through the unselfish deeds of serving others.

Sincerely,

Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver eneration

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Emotional Issues of the Caregiver

2010-05-26T09:07:00.000-07:00

Happiness is a conscious choice, not an automatic response.

Mildred Barthel

Caring for elderly loved ones is often like being on an emotional roller coaster. The downside of that roller coaster might include frustration, anger, guilt, resentment, sadness, and depression, as well as feelings of helplessness and of being overwhelmed.

The upside might include feelings of honor, privilege, acceptance, joy, and peace. It is important to identify your feelings with a single word, as well as the thoughts behind them. Counter-productive and subtractive feelings are fear driven. Feelings do not have to be acted on.

The process of caregiving could go on for ten or twenty years, so careivers need to take care of themselves. Schedule downtime, eat healthy, exercise, get plenty of rest, have regular physical exams, and talk about your feelings with a trusted friend, family member, or professional. Find sources of help and assistance for your loved one and for you.

Sincerely,

Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

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The Passionate Art of Caregiving

2010-05-24T22:15:00.000-07:00

All the art of living, lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.

Havelock Ellis

Please join me Tuesday, May 25, 2010, 12:00 Noon (EST), 9:00 AM (PST) http://www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon

How do we, as caregivers, help heal the souls of those we care for? What part of our own soul connects with others and allows us to be a healing influence to all who come in contact with us?

According to Dr. Jose Rodriguez, Florida State University: "To touch, to listen, to care, and to love is to heal. To think, to learn, to teach, and to share is to heal." You won't want to miss this episode as my special guest, Dr. Rodriguez, discusses the passionate art of caregiving.

Dr. Rodriguez will share stories from his new book "HEAL--Humanism Evolving through Arts and Literature." Be prepared to allow healing to take place in your own soul as we explore how life, art, music and love heals.

Sincerely,

Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation/Scroll down for You Tube Video

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Caregiver Guilt About Not Being There

2010-05-23T13:18:00.000-07:00

This is another exerpt taken from So Far Away - National Institute on Aging (January, 2006)

We do not remember days, we remember moments.

Cesare Pavese

"Most caregivers report feeling guilty about almost everything--about not being closer, not doing enough, not having enough time. Worrying about being able to afford to take time off from work or the cost of travel can increase frustration.

As one cargiver noted, When I wa reowing up, my mother and I weren't very close. As an adukt, I ended up across the country. When Mom got sick, my sister took on most of the caregiving. Because I'm hours away, I couldn't be at Mom's bedside regularly but I did call her more often. I worked it out with my sister so I took care of handling Mom's monthly bills. I did visit several times and always encouraged my sister to take a break from caregiving while I was there. ow that Mom's gone, I'm dealing with the estate, closing out accounts, and deciding what to do with the house. We all do what we can.

Sincerely,

Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

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Frustration--A Common State for Caregivers.

2010-05-22T12:46:00.000-07:00

A man (or woman) cannot discover new oceans unless he/she has the courge

to lose sight of the shore.

Andre`Gide

Here's an excerpt from "So Far Away" a publication from the National Institute on Aging

"Feeling frustrated and angry with everyone from your parent(s) to his/her doctors, is a common caregiving experience. It can be hard to acknowledge that you feel this way, but try not to criticize yourself even more. Caregiving, especially from a distance, is likely to bring out a fiull range of human emotions, both positive and negative. If you feel angry, it could be a sign that you are overwhelmed or that you are trying to do too much. If you can, give yourself a break: Take a walk, talk with your friends, get some sleep, join a support group--try to do something for yourself." (January, 2006)

"Do not run faster than you have strength."

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Sincerely,

Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

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Medical alert saves lives!

2010-05-20T22:57:00.000-07:00

Here's some more information from Philips Lifeline Medical Alert website: http://www.lifelinesys.com/ This site offers amazing information!

"Preserve independent at home living with the Lifeline Medical Alert Service"

This year 13.5 million people, 65 and older will fall. If you or a loved one experience a medical emergency, time is of the essence. That's where Philips Lifeline can help, connecting you to the right help for the situation, 24 hours a day, 365 days a year at the push of a button. Whether you need emergency services or just the assistance of a family member or friend to help you get back on your feet, we can help.

My own aunt, who was in good health and lived alone, fell and was not able to get up. Her son found her several days later and the coroner concluded she had been dead three days before her son found her. I truly believe if she had had Lifeline Medical alert the outcome of her fall would have been significantly diffrent.

Philips Lifeline offers a free assessment. Give them a call at 1-866-674-9900 Ext. 4492.

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Sincerely,

Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

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Medication errors are serious business, especially for seniors!

2010-05-19T21:00:00.000-07:00

Just want to share some information I just read on: http://www.lifelinesys.com. This is from the Philips Lifeline Medical Alert website.

Reduce the risk of medication errors

If you value your health and independence, you know it's important to take medications exactly as your doctor prescribed. Yet improper medication management and falls can get in the way of independent living, creating stress for you and your loved ones.

With the complexity of medications many seniors take, it's no surprise: 1 in 10 hospital admissions for seniors are a result of medication errors.* Philips Lifeline now offers a simple, proven Medication Dispensing Service that can help.

Philips provides an easy-to-use solution that helps maintain the proper medication schedule. Hear a simple audio reminder and at the push of a button, get your medications at the pre-programmed times.

Sound easy? It is—and it's effective. Philips Medication Dispensing Service has been proven to deliver a 98.6% in-home dispensing adherence level among monitored subscribers.

Visit:http://www.ManageMyPills.com to Learn More

This is a fantastic website with invaluable information! I have a link to it from my own website: http://www.BabyBoomersSandwich.com www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

Sincerely,

Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

Caregivers Need to Take Care of Themselves.

2010-05-19T19:12:00.000-07:00

The future is the past returning through another gate.

Arnold H. Glasow

Many caregivers report feeling as if they are drowning in the responsibilities of caregiving. However, you cannot save another person if you are drowning. Fifty percent of long-term caregivers will die before the person they are caring for. Why? Because they do not take care of themselves during the years they are taking care of others.

It is common for caregivers to get so focused on the person they are taking care of that they neglect their their own health. They fail to get annual physicals which might detect disease and illnesses in early stages. Many caregivers develop poor eating habits, fail to exercise, and gain excessive weight. In addition to stress and comfort eating, some caregivers say that they use alcohol to help them sleep or to self-medicate. Others report they start to smoke again after having quit for years prior to falling lot to caregiving.

Caregivers need to take care of themselves or they will have nothing left to give others. Here are some ways individuals may take better care of themselves and find greater balance in their lives while taking care of others.

First, take care of yourself physically through good health habits--exercise, maintain a healthy diet, lose excessive weight, confront addictions to caffeine, nicotine, sugar, alcohol and/or other drugs. The old adage “You are what you eat (drink, and smoke)” is true.

Our emotional and spiritual well being is directly intertwined with our physical health. Most emotional, as well as physical, health issues—depression, anxiety, insomnia, obesity, high blood pressure, diabetes, chronic fatigue, joint pain and a host of other illnesses are directly related to what we put into our bodies and how we treat ourselves.

Second, schedule your own physicals, check-ups, and regular medical exams, and commit to keeping these appointments.

Third, stay connected with extended family and significant others. Mend fences if needed.

Fourth, even if it's only for an hour a week, engage in a gratifying activity. Find a support group even if it is on-line.

And lastly, connect with your inner being. Take at least fifteen minutes each day to sit quietly and listen to your own inner voice, even if it requires that you get up fifteen minutes earlier. The pay-off will far outweigh the loss of a few minutes sleep.

We all have this wonderful gift--an internal mechanism that will guide us if we’ll take the time to pay attention to it. When we listen to the still, small voice within us, the choices we choose will make the caregiving process much easier and more enjoyable.

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Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
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Every Second Counts in Caregiving

2010-05-19T02:00:00.000-07:00

Presence is More Than Being There.

(Malcolm S. Forbes)

Several hours ago at 9:00 AM, Tuesday, May 18, 2010 I had the most interesting guest on my BlogTalkRadioShow (http://www.blogtalkradio.com/sandra-haymon). Sandy Wahl, Representative for Phillips LifelineCommunity Outreach and Our Family Services (swahl@ourfamilyservices.org) came on to talk about the most amazing technology. Phillips Lifeline Medical Alert Service has just introduced to the market.

Phillips has created an Auto Alert pendant that can call for help even when the peron wearing it can't. Within 20-30 seconds after the person falls the Auto Alert pendant recognizes that the person has fallen, and is unable to push the call button. It automatically phones for help!

Phillips is the only company in the United States that offers this second layer of protection and the good news is that you can get this for only a few dollars more than the original lifeline--less than one fast food lunch a month!

Lifeline the #1 medical alert service:
* is trusted by thousands of hpospitals
* has helped more than 6 million people with the peace of mind and confidence to help maintin independent livng
* is recommended by over 65,000 healthcare professionals

This year 13.3 milion people 65 and over will fall, and half of them will not be able to get up by themelves. This blogpost is certainly not an infomercial for Phillips. It is, however, a very strong endorcement of a product and company that I totally support and highly recommend.

If there is any thought in your mind that you, or loved ones could benefit from such a service, I strongly urge you to call your local Phillips Lifeline Medical Alert representative and ask her/him to come out, perform an assessment, and help you make this "no-brainer" decision before it's too late.

I know from personal experience that the statistics about elderly folks falling is all too true. However, most families are in denial and wait until there is a broken hip, leg, neck, etc., before they admit that todays' technology not only offers them peace of mind, but could offer a higher quality of life for a much longer time--perhaps as long as they live.

Make a decision today that you won't regret. That's part of taking care of yourself. Scroll down for YouTube.

Sincerely, Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

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Three of the Five Strongest Emotions Felt by Caregivers

2010-05-18T22:28:00.000-07:00

Anger is a symptom, a way of cloaking and expressing feelings too awful to experience directly--hurt,bitterness, grief, and most of all, fear.

(Joan Rivers, Still Talking)

Anger is another emotion that is fear driven. Oftentimes, people express anger because it seems safer than expressing fear. Caregivers, especially women, report being angry about many things including:
- Angry that siblings don't help take care of their parents.
- Angry with herself for not confronting siblings and delegating part of the responsibilities.
- Angry that her parents didn't plan for "that day" sooner/better.
- Angry that she didn't see "that day" coming and better prepare for it.
- Angry at medical professionals.
- Angry that there are too many choices.
- Angry that there are not enough choices.
- Angry that it's "expected" that she delay her own life plans and cater to parents--while siblings continue with their lives uninterrupted.
- Angry that her job/career is compromised (ie., having to turn down promotions, or greater responsibilities, or fun projects that might require travel, or she might even have to quit her job to take care of her folks.)
- Angry that she has to use her sick leave and vacation time to take care of her folks.
- Angry that "no one understands" what she's going thru.

Anguish

Female caregivers report extreme anguish over trying to:
- "please" her mother/father and trying to "please" her husband.
- the choice between moving her mom/dad in with her and disrupting her family life and moving her folks to a care facility, or allowing them to remain in their own home at the risk of serious consequences.

Loneliness

Although there are approximately 65 million caregivers in the United States, most caregivers report feeling lonely, isolated, and afraid. Eighty percent of caregivers are unpaid and care for a dependent adult seven days a week.

Fear driven emotions are often exaggerated when we are tired or have multiple life stressors. So, remember to take care of yourself. Your role as caregiver is but one of many roles. Other aspects of your life continue and there needs to be balance. I will share ways you might take care of yourself while caring for your elderly loved one(s) tomorrow. Scroll down for You Tube Video.

Sincerely,
Sandra, Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
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Kind Ethics for Caregivers

2010-05-17T22:07:00.000-07:00

Viki Kind is a clinical bioethicist, medical educator, hospice volunteer and the author of The Caregiver’s Path to Compassionate Decision Making – Making Choice for Those Who Can’t.

Here's a recent article I received fro her.

Kind Ethics for Caregivers

"Sometimes as caregivers, we try to protect the person in our care and to stay strong for everyone else in the family. We pretend that nothing is wrong even in the midst of very difficult situations. This isolates us—and our loved ones even more.

Instead, reach out and begin talking about how each of you is coping. Allow the person to share his or her emotions, even the loud and scary emotions.

Be still and listen with your full attention.

Turn off the phone and the television. Be present with your loved one’s suffering because as you listen, you help the person heal.

Then it will be your turn to speak your truth. Your fears and concerns are not a burden to your family but something that everyone is thinking and too afraid to speak out loud.

If your loved one’s medical condition has begun to worsen, or the process of dying has begun, ask what your loved one would like to have happen.

Include the individual in every way you can think of so he or she can retain some sense of control and power.

Imagine how hard it must be to know that your mind is going or to feel your body changing right before your eyes.

Even though you can’t control what is happening, one of the greatest gifts you can give your loved one is to hear his or her needs and wishes.

And then, each time you have to make a decision or to talk about life and medical choices, remember to start from your loved ones perspective.

I realize that watching your loved one suffer is difficult for you, the caregiver, but keep in mind how difficult it is for your loved one.

Perhaps you can be a little more patient or a little more respectful. Maybe before you lash out in frustration with the person you are caring for, you can stop, catch your breath and try to be more understanding, compassionate and kind.

I know you are human and you can’t be nice all the time. I know I have been frustrated and less than loving at times when taking care of my family members.

But, I also know we can strive to be better—not perfect, but better. It’s not easy, but we can choose to do a little better every day." Have a kind and respectful day. viki@kindethics.com

I hope you benefitted from this as much as I did.
Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
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Two of the Five Strongest Emotions felt by Caregivers

2010-05-17T18:34:00.000-07:00

The worst fear of all is the fear of living.

(Theodore Roosevelt)

The majority of caregivers continue to be women, and often the youngest daughter falls lot to the responsibility of caring for her aging parents. Even when it's the husband's parents, the responsibilities associated with primary caregiving often get delegated to his wife--who may or may not work outside the home. Here are two of the five strongest and most frequently reported emotions experienced by caregivers secondary to caring for elderly loved ones.

Fear

Fear is the primal emotion from which all other counter-productive emotions originate. However, rather than expressing their fears, many caregivers express feelings that are fear driven such as guilt, anger, anguish and lonliness. Fears associated with caregiving include:

- Fear that her parent(s) will become angry if she takes their car keys--even when she knows they are no longer safe to drive

- Fear that if she does not take their keys some innocent person could be killed and it would be her fault for not taking the keys

- Fear of whether she's making the right decisions

- Fear of what others, especially other family members, will think/say about her decisions

- Fear that she'll disappoint her parents

- Fear that she'll disappoint her own husband and family

- Fear that there will not be enough money to pay for her parent(s) care

Guilt

Caregivers report being torn between the guilt of moving their loved ones from their home (placing them in a nursing home, Alzheimer's unit, or even an assisted living facility), and the fear of something awful happening to them should they be allowed to continue living alone. Guilt about placing a parent in a care facility is, perhaps, one of the most painful events in the life of adult children--especially the designated caregiver who is expected to take care of the parents. Here are other situations careivers report feeling guilty about:
- spending time with her parents and not with her own husband and family
- spending time with her husband and family rather than spending that time with her parent(s)
- taking away their car keys even when she knows they are no longer safe to drive
- that no matter what she does--it's never enough and never goo0d enough.

You get to decide when it's enough and when it's good enough. You also get to decide whether you'll continue to choose counter-productive emotions, which are fear driven , such as guilt, anger, anguish, and loneliness, or whether you'll liberate yourself from self-defeating thoughts and beliefs that keep you chained to the very depths of hell. The choice is all yours, but you aren't really free to make a choice as long as you stay on auto-pilot.

Tomorrow I will discuss the last three of the five strongest emotions expressed by caregivers--anger, anguish, and loneliness. I welcome your questions and comments. Scroll down for You Tube video
Sincerely,
Sandra -Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
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Emotional Challenges of Caregiving

2010-05-16T22:28:00.000-07:00

One of the most dangerous forms of human error is forgetting what one is trying to achieve. (Paul Nitze)

There are two primal emotions--love and fear. As I see it, all other emotions stem from one of these two emotional origins. Love is a productive, positive, uplifting, and energizing emotion that adds to our emotional account. Most of us know what love is. Love is kind. Love is patient. Love is tolerant. Love is long-suffering. Some of the emotional fruits of love are feelings of joy, happiness, peace, and gratitude.

Fear is the opposite of love. Fear is a subtractive and counter-productive emotion that is draining and defeating. Some of the emotional fruits of fear are anxiety, impatience, frustration, anger, sadness. discouragement, and depression. These emotions often manifest as physical and emotional pain.

One of the primary problems with fear is that it is negative. Therefore, decisions that are made from fear based emotions never serve us well. It's the Law of the Harvest. We cannot gain something positive from something negative any more than we can get corn when we plant potatoes.

Caregivers of aging parents often describe the experience of caregiving as one of being on an emotional rollercoaster. Over the next day or so I will write about some of the most common fear based emotions reported by caregivers, and how these might be identified and changed into emotions that come from love.

Meanwhile, make a list of the five strongest emotions you've felt or are feeling about your role as caregiver. If you'd like to share them with me, just post them below or on my website: http//www.BabyBoomersSandwich.com, and I will be happy to address those specifically in my next blog.

Take care of YOU as you take care of others. Scroll down for You Tube video

Sincerely,

Sandra-Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

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Our Emotions are the Children of Our Thoughts.

2010-05-15T19:38:00.000-07:00

Men (and women) occasionally stumble over the truth,

but most of them will pick themselves up and hurry off as if nothing happened.

(Winston Churchill)

Our emotions (feelings) are not secondary to what has happened or what someone did or said, but rather what we tell ourselves about what has happened or what was said. We are not emotional victims of our environment.

If we don't like what we are feeling about something or someone, we can change those feelings by simply changing our thoughts, what we tell ourselves, what we believe--all or some of which may or may not be true.

Nothing and no one can make us feel angry, happy, sad, or any other emotion. Nor, can we make another person angry, happy, sad, etc.

The notion that we can make another person feel anything is omnipotent. And, the belief that others have the omnipotent power to make us feel is irrational thinking.

Just imagine what an insane world it would be if humans could control the emotional responses of others. We would all be mere puppets, waiting for someone to pull our strings to get a response. Our feelings and emotional responses would always be at the mercy of everyone and everything in our environment.

No one has power over another's emotions. We are all born with the wonderful ability to choose our feelings by choosing what we tell ourselves.

So it is with caregiving. You are free to choose to be angry and resentful that you have fallen lot to this role by telling yourself that it is not fair and you do not deserve to be burdened with such weighted responsibilities.

However, if you don't like being angry and feeling resentful you could tell yourself that the opportunity to care for other human beings and do for them that which they cannot do for themselves is an honor and a privilege offered to a select few.

Your emotional response would perhaps then change to feelings of compassion and empathy for the person you're caring for, and gratitude for the opportunity to learn and grow. Thank goodness no one can plant in our emotional garden but us. Scroll down for You Tube video

Sincerely,
Sandra - Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation
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Caregiving opportunities happen simultaneously.

2010-05-13T21:18:00.000-07:00

"If all difficulties were known at the outset of a long journey,

most of us would never start out at all."

(Dan Rather with Peter Wyden in "I Remember")

Imagine this senario. My friend (Patty), like many of you, is presently taking two turns at caregiving simultaneously. Her mother, who will be 101 years old in June had to move in with Patty after she fell and suffered a neck fracture. Yesterday, Patty's husband was hospitalized for a hip replacement. Consequently, Patty's been running back and forth between her house and the hospital trying to take care of the two people she loves most in the world. Yet, feeling that she is not doing a very good job for either.

In Baby Boomers I wrote about Patty and suggested she could be the Poster Child for Family Caregivers and the Sandwich Generation. The sandwich she's in more resembles a Dagwood Special than a simple boomer sandwich. Patty, like millions of you, is sandwiched between caring for her mother, a daughter still at home, working, planning for her own retirement, and now taking care of her husband.

For those of you who can well relate to the sandwich Patty's in, you might be happy to know there are many things you can do to lighten your load and lift your burdens.

The first thing is to recognize and accept that you have a choice about how you experience your role as caregiver. Caregiving is not inherently joyful, nor is it inherently burdensome. The entire process of caregiving is absolutely netural. You are wonderfully free to choose how you experience your role of caregiver.

I will be writing more about this during the next several days. Please remember to post your questions and comments. I truly want to know how I can help you and your loved ones as you take your turn!

Sincerely,

Sandra- Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

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Our Turn to Care for Elderly Loved Ones

2010-05-12T13:20:00.000-07:00

Baby Boomers--Sandwiched Between Retirement & Caregiving

Hi:

I'm Sandra Haymon a licensed psychologist aka the Caregiver Guru for the Caregiving Generation. I have spent the past 20 years in various personal caregiver roles, working with other family caregivers, and providing training seminars for healthcare providers. I have written two books about the practical and emotional issues of caregiving and end-of-life concerns.

In 1996 I wrote the first book published in the United States about parenting our parents entitled: My Turn: Caring for Aging Parents & Other Elderly Loved Ones--A Daughter's Perspective. My parents were older when I was born, so I was about 15 years ahead of the curve for most baby boomers when it became my turn to parent my parents. Now, many of the 78 million baby boomers are in the same boat that I was in a few years ago.

My latest book: Baby Boomers--Sandwiched Between Retirement & Caregiving was just released this past year. I hope you will have a look at my website: http://www.BabyBoomersSandwich.com/, and watch my You Tube Video--see below.

I will be sharing information that I have learned over the years which will, hopefully, help others have an easier time as they take their turn as caregiver. I look forward to your questions and comments.

Sincerely,

Sandra-Caregiver Guru for the Caregiver Generation

www.BabyBoomersSandwich.com

You Tube Video www.youtube.com/sandrawhaymon

You Tube Video